My Life Coach Tara

RRT trainings

2012-01-24T08:08:00.000-06:00

I have returned from another Level 3 training. I've been training in RRT® for 3 going on 4 years now. I've gotta say this was the best training yet. I went down to Florida for this training for a few reasons; one to get a chance to meet some of the ISSV™ face to face and get some ISSV™ work completed. I also had a chance to catch up with some RRT® friends of mine as well as teach/coach some Certified Practitioners, get coached, and get some of my own "stuff" cleared and resolved.
I really love being a part of this community. We are all very supportive to each other, making referrals across the United States sometimes. No really!! If a CP is in one state and a friend or co-worker is looking for an RRT® therapist in another state we find someone for them! Someone we likely know and trust.
We're also out in the world of social media not just talking about what we do individually but what our RRT® friends are doing. We're also out there providing RRT® for the loved ones of our RRT® friends. As a therapist it's "unethical" to treat a family member or loved one; and in reality it's just not even effective to do so. But it's amazing how a loved one can easily have amazing results from another RRT® practitioner and we're ready and willing to do so for our friends!
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

Scheduling

2012-01-16T07:34:00.000-06:00

It appears I have not explained my scheduling here on my blog. So here's the gist...
Because I am a Certified Rapid Resolution® therapist, and exclusively do RRT, longer sessions lend themselves to RRT better. All appointments with me are scheduled for 3 hours. We may use all 3 hours we may not. (I've probably gone over that in another post somewhere!) And as I know I have posted about before I have a per-session fee versus per-hour.
My office hours are Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday. Due to having sessions scheduled for three hours my appointments on those days are very set as well: 9:30am- 12:30pm, 2:00pm-5:00pm and 5:00pm-8:00pm.
With that being said have a great week!
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

It's that time

2012-01-09T07:28:00.000-06:00

I've never really understood the whole New Year's Resolution thing. What I do know is that many people do set New Year's Resolutions. And many of those resolutions will be to loose weight and get into better shape and health. There are many different ways to loose weight out there, diets so to speak. I have my opinion on them but I'm not a diet expert so there's no reason for me to go there.
Here's what's on my mind. No matter how diligent someone is with their diet and exercise program there are some who still find it hard to loose all the weight they want. I've met a few people like that, they were clients of mine. It amazed me how when I was able to clear them of any troubling emotions the weight just fell off, and stayed off. There are times that our emotional stuff is hindering our health. When those emotional blocks are freed we have more energy to go towards improving our over all health.
So if you've set any resolution and find you may need something to help you complete that resolution pick up the phone and give me a call!
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

Happy 2012

2012-01-02T07:00:00.000-06:00

Welcome to 2012. 2011 was a curvy road for me as I'm sure it was for others. Besides curvy there were a few hills to go up and down. Change isn't always wanted or easy to adapt to but it's inevitable. And 2012 I'm guessing will be no different.
I'm currently sharing an amazing office suite with two women who are also Certified in Rapid Resolution Therapy®. This I plan on keeping the same for 2012. (unless I will the lottery and then I'm moving to Fiji) what is changing is the amount of trees I put into a client's file. As required by Federal Law I will have to have all clients complete HIPAA forms, Consent forms, and for our accounting needs a Client data sheet. I would prefer to be able to NOT have these forms but I can not get around them. What I am reducing is the forms that I then fill out. As many of you know I do not take insurance or any form of EAP (Employee Assistance Programs) There are many reasons I no longer accept these forms of payment but one of those reasons is that they require I diagnose everyone with some type of a mental health disorder. I have the training and the experience to do so but who really wants a mental health disorder diagnosis following them around?
Yet without these organizations being involved in the work I do I'm freed from some f that paperwork. In order to cover any need for records (which sometimes happens with court issues) ALL of my sessions will be audio recorded and this will then be a part of my client's chart. These recordings will only be available to myself or if court ordered then they will have to be made available to the court. I have investigated this and it is legal to have no progress notes, treatment plan, or psychological assessment if the entire session is recorded.
If you are considering seeking an RRT therapist but are uncomfortable with being audio recorded then I can make a referral for you to one of my suite mates, neither of them audio record their sessions at this time.
So that being said I'm excited to see what 2012 brings my way and excited to reduce the amount of harm to trees due to the job I am so in love with!
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

The honor is mine

2011-12-26T08:55:00.000-06:00

I'm sure I've mentioned before that in agreeing to become a Certified RRT therapist I also agree to do some pro bono work. Well recently I was honored to be able to provide RRT pro bono for a Veteran of the Iraqi War. Due to confidentiality and HIPAA I shall not go into the details of his session. Here's what I will say there had been a lot of anger and PTSD. He told me before we met, over the phone, he had seen many therapists looking to have all this taken care of but none of it was successful. So obviously he was skeptical. Needless to say he left a changed man. He was amazed by the results he had and continued to thank me as he left my office. The truth is I am more than honored to have helped this amazing young man.
Many of our men and women serve our country and I will always be honored to help them overcome any trauma they have survived before, during, or after their service to our country.
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

Cutting

2011-12-19T07:00:00.001-06:00

An issue that comes up in a counselor's office that can strike fear in the heart of a counselor is someone who cuts. This issue is not only concerning for counselors but loved one's of the client (usually it seems to be a teenager from my experience but this is not just an issue for teens) but also schools, employers, and doctors.
Recently I started to see a girl in middle school who had been cutting for the past two years. This was her second year i middle school and she was seen by the crisis counselor daily since school had started. School finally said please seek professional help for this young lady. Mom sought me out because of the fact I am certified in RRT. DFS had been called in about a few things in relation to this girl. So I had my hands full of lots of people trying ot get a handle on this issue.
Well low and behold right before this young lady started cutting she had been molested. Through RRT I quickly and painlessly cleared the trauma from that horrible experience. A week later I received another call from the crisis counselor (whom I had already spoken to twice I think before I even met my client) She called to ask what happened because the day after this young lady's first session she stopped coming in to the crisis office. The crisis counselor had never experienced any child being healed from one session. As the sessions went on my client continued to benefit from RRT. In fact it got to the point that teachers and students were still upset over her past cutting that it took a team to help the school to calm down and relax...this young lady would just crack a joke and instantly teachers or other students would assume something was wrong and go running to the crisis office. Between Mom and myself we helped the school to understand what to be concerned about and what not to be concerned about as it related to my client. I commend the school for being proactive!!
My whole point is a behavior can be a symptom of something that can be cleared through RRT.

Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

Danger Will Rogers Danger

2011-12-12T07:00:00.003-06:00

Anger is, in my opinion, not a helpful emotion. I used to take a martial arts class, where I was actually taught how to effective defend myself against men much larger than I am, and not once was I told to get mad and then defend myself. In fact it was more about staying in the present moment and watching to see what my opponent was going to do next.
If there is a bomb set to go off in a school full of children how angry do we want the bomb squad guy to be? And the negotiator talking to the guy holding several people hostage in the bank, how mad do we want him to be? The answer is not at all for either of them. I have not been able to come up with a single episode or time that anger would be helpful to any human on this planet.
Why you ask? Anger is designed to make us move forward and bite someone, something in an effort to protect ourselves or our loved ones...yet in our society where is this ever helpful? I've had several clients try to explain to me that anger was helpful to them because it gives them power and gets them respect. Now think of the most angry person you know that you have to deal with in any way (work, family, etc) how much respect for them do you have? How smart do angry people seem to be? Not smart at all. In fact in terms of our society people with all that anger tend to come off as being more dumb than smart. There's a reason for this, with anger the mind turns up it's fight reaction and turns down it's logical mind. There is a smart person in there under all that anger!
So if you or someone you know is being guided by anger Rapid Resolution Therapy® can help!
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

Start with yourself

2011-12-05T07:00:00.003-06:00

Quote by an unknown monk from AD 1100: "When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world. I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation. When I found I couldn't change the nation, I began to focus on my town. I couldn't change the town, and as a older man, I tried to change my family. Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself, and suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed myself, I could have made an impact on my family. My family and I could have made an impact on our town. Their impact could have changed the nation and I could indeed have changed the world." For yourself, your goal may be to improve yourself by taking classes from online universities.
Changing the world can be as simple as having change within yourself. This is exactly what an RRT Therapist can do for you...change your inner emotional world, which will change your unwanted thoughts and behaviors which will then change how you respond to your loved ones; this then will impact how they respond to you and their world, and then that will begin to change the world...one RRT session at a time.
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

Holidays

2011-11-28T10:13:00.000-06:00

The holidays are not always happy for many people. This is usually a rather stressful time for many reasons. Social obligations, facing holidays without the connection with loved ones who may have passed, being far away from loved ones, and on and on.
It can be better than that though. Trauma comes in many forms, big trauma like violent crimes, little traumas like having to put your nose in the corner in 3rd grade, and all kinds in between. This can be a great time of year to take care of yourself and get in to see an RRT therapist who can clear those big, little, or medium traumas up so that the Holiday season is more joyful and pleasurable. we have over 200 Certified and Master Certified Practitioners across the United States and one in Canada! To find someone close to you check out our listing of RRT therapists here.
Here's to a Happy Holiday Season!
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

Attitude of gratitude

2011-11-21T10:07:00.000-06:00

For many years now I have not been a watcher of the news. Many people wonder how I keep up with what's going on in the world. You'd be amazed at how informed you can be without watching the news (of any kind or reading the news.) Locally in St. Louis there's been a few deaths of toddlers at the hands of people who knew the child. (One was at the hands of his own Mother)
This week we Celebrate Thanksgiving and my biggest gratitude is related to my child. One I am so grateful that she is healthy, I know that I am very fortunate that she was born healthy and remains so. I am also grateful that I had lots of help through out her life. Ella had colic as an infant and didn't sleep much and nursed hourly for the first 3 months of her life. I was pushed to brink of a break down, somehow I found the ability to call my parents when I needed a nap or a chance to just eat. And they were always there. My in-laws as well helped out when they came into to town. Unfortunately this hasn't been so for every child out there. Third I'm grateful there is an organization like the Crisis Nursery. They are there for parents who don't have the help like I have had. A stressed out parent can drop their child off to get a much needed break. And lastly I am grateful to Dr. Connelly. Since starting training with him I have seen him for therapy several times. The work he has done to clear out my traumas and reorganize my emotional mind have allowed me to be more like the Mother and wife I have always wanted to be. As well as the chance he has given me at having my own column in his monthly newsletter and to be the Executive Director of the ISSV, his not-for-profit organization.
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

Tis the season

2011-11-14T07:00:00.004-06:00

The holidays are fast approaching. Which typically means, for many, lots of food and lots of time with family and friends. Now TV and movies quite often makes it look like, well a Norman Rockwell painting. Yet reality and TV don't really look alike. (Shoot reality TV isn't really reality...)
Many people have anxieties about these social gatherings, some may even have resentments and anger that relate to people they may have to celebrate with. How about something different this year? How about BEFORE those parties and family gatherings even start treat yourself to some Rapid Resolution Therapy®? Walk into those social gatherings with your head held high, your heart filled with joy, and the ability to sail through the holidays like an eagle can manage the air currents?
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

New policy

2011-11-07T13:50:00.000-06:00

I'm going to very honest and frank here with this post. I will only schedule appointments for those clients who call for themselves. Now granted the one exception is the younger teens I work with, I'm not so sure a 12 year old is going have a grasp on the family schedule to make their own appointments. As for older teens, college aged, and adults my new policy is that client needs to schedule their own appointment.
Sounds like nothing out of the ordinary huh? Like Why would I need such a policy? It's amazing to me how many girlfriends and mother's make appointments and then figuratively drag the person in. The truth is though if that person doesn't want, desire, or see the need for counseling (RRT or otherwise) it decreases the likelihood that I will be at all effective. And I can attest to this, when client's come in who didn't do so on their own accord it just doesn't work, or to some extent it's less effective.
I know there are SO many of you out there who love the people in your life and you can see how RRT would be extremely helpful to them. Encourage them to call me themselves. I will gladly answer their questions, help them understand how what I do can benefit them, and in talking to me themselves gives them a chance to start a therapeutic relationship with me that will then increase the likelihood that they will come and most definitely improves the outcome they have when they do come in.
I'm more than willing to answer questions you may have, they will eventually have to call themselves and make their own appointment!
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

Hauntings

2011-10-31T12:52:00.000-05:00

Have you tried years and numerous counselors who specialize in various forms of traditional counseling and yet you still find yourself haunted by ghosts from your past? Well Happy Halloween and why not try something different...Rapid Resolution Therapy®.
Research in neurobiology is suggesting that traditional counseling where one is asked to "re-live" their trauma, and "go through" the emotional ghosts from those past experiences may actually deepen the effect of the traumatic event one has already survived.
With Rapid Resolution Therapy® the treatment is quick, effective, painless, and long lasting. Research in neuroscience (known as neuroplasticity or the brain's ability to rewire it's self) suggests that staying emotionally present while talking about the trauma one has survived may be the way to effectively clear the negative impact of traumatic events...and that's exactly what an RRT therapist is trained to do.
So give me a call, not only am I RRT trained my specialty within RRT is clearing trauma...
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

Welcome back

2011-10-24T07:00:00.000-05:00

I was in private practice before I became Certified in RRT. I obviously made a good impression on my clients because even though I have moved my office, changed my fees and my scheduling, as well as how I go about counseling they still come back when something traumatic happens. And earlier this month one of my previous clients found me and drove a long way to come back to see me. She was blown away at the quick and dramatic effects RRT had upon her situation that when her step-daughter (whom I had also seen years ago) was having some emotional problems she contacted me and got her step-daughter in to see me.
This is the impromptu thank you card that the step-mom handed me about her own recent RRT session:
Tara,
Thank you for getting the old me back, when I lost my twin brother and saw what the hospital had done the week before I didn't know if I could ever get over the grief and anger but after seeing you the grief and anger is gone. I have since met with the hospital so hopefully this will never happen to another family, and the administration (of the hospital) was glad I did. I just feel so great, I miss my brother but I know he's OK and I can deal with it now thanks to you. Jennifer R. Pike County, Missouri (and yes she agreed that I could post this!)
Well Jennifer thanks for coming in and getting this done!!

Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

The Science of Rapid Resolution Therapy®

2011-10-17T16:05:00.002-05:00

I was recently approached to have a guest blogger on my blog. This was a new one for me becase I have been asked to guest blog but not vice versa. I explained my niche in this big world of mental health care and this lovely lady was very willing to accommodate my boundaries. So please enjoy this blog post by Patricia Duggan:

Researchers in the areas of neuroscience and trauma such as Bessel van der Kolk, MD, and Dan Siegel, MD, have made recent discoveries that back up the success of Rapid Resolution Therapy®. In RRT, the practice of keeping clients “emotionally present” as they describe a traumatic event keeps their brains from activating the fight-or-flight response.
The specific part of the brain that normally triggers this response is the amygdala, which processes emotional reactions and stores some memories. A single, highly emotional event can be well-remembered because it triggers the amygdala. When the amygdala senses danger, the brain inhibits the hippocampus and parts of the pre-frontal cortex from tampering emotional responses and integrating memory into the conscious part of the brain. As a result, the memory stays in the deeper, unconscious part of the brain. However, triggers such as smells, sounds, or images related to the memory can cause an emotional response similar to that of the original trauma.
The process of RRT helps the client keep the hippocampus and pre-frontal cortex active. Rather than re-living the emotional trauma of an event as they describe it, the client revisits the event while emotionally responding to the present situation. An RRT therapist will guide the patient through the process. By disassociating the emotions from the memory, the process seems to help the brain realize that the trauma is over. The client can move into the present and leave the trauma behind.
For more details, read this article by Courtney Armstrong.
Patricia Duggan has a Masters in Psychology and has been practicing for 11 years. She maintains the site Psychology Degree. She writes about various subjects within the psychology field.

Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

New future

2011-10-17T07:00:00.001-05:00

Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending. - Maria Robinson

The truth is the past no longer exists. Sure we can all conceive of many ways that the past could have happened, or should have happened, or if we knew then what we know now how we would have done it differently- but there's no way to make that happen. And this small idea, which seems so obvious, is something that traps our mind into a place of stuckness. This is something I can quickly, effectively, and painlessly fix for my clients when they come to see me.

I know, many of you are saying why the heck for, we all know we can't go back in time? Stop and think for a moment about a troubling concern, something that happened maybe not even too far in the past...how often have you reexamined that experience with those would of's, should of's, and could of's...even if those questions aren't about you but maybe someone else's behavior? And as you think about that moment, done and over with now, what feelings do you notice are coming up? Are they feelings that make you feel warm and fuzzy or frustrated, upset, and well something other than say happy and grateful? That's something that I can clear up, clean up and get your mind back on track so that it's totally possible to make a new ending!

Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

Coping skills?

2011-10-10T07:00:00.001-05:00

A really wonderful and talented RRT friend of mine (Dr. John Smith) recently posted a video about anxiety. This video was posted on Facebook and thus there was room for comments. One of the comments was related to why RRT therapists don't talk about teaching their clients how to cope with their anxiety and panic attacks. The commenter stated all RRT therapists talk about what anxiety is and how it effects people but that we never speak of using Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy to teach our clients how to cope. When that is the case, some people may choose to earn an online psychology degree to help them to sort through their feelings.
Many times when I have new clients call to discuss what RRT is and what issues they are seeking to have taken care I regularly am asked about what type of coping skills I will be teaching them. Even during a session clients note how they will eventually need to learn to cope with things like anxiety, anger, grief, and guilt.
Let me be frank and honest here. I don't teach coping skills. I don't have to teach coping skills. If I clear someone of anxiety and thus it no longer bothers them; they can't get anxious if they tried to (maybe if a bear was chasing them there'd be some anxiety.) So why do I need to teach someone how to cope with something that doesn't bother them? It's like trying to teach someone to use a computer who doesn't have one and refuses to buy one. What's the point?
This is one of those things that makes RRT therapists radically different than other therapists. We clear people of their emotional blocks so that there are no blocks to get in the way. Clients of RRT are able to manage their life with freedom and ease versus just coping with life.
Maybe this will make better sense- It's an RRT therapist's job to get their client emotionally healthy, not to teach them how to fix those emotional blocks. It's your mechanic's job to fix your car not to teach you how to fix your own car!
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

Fundraising

2011-10-03T07:00:00.000-05:00

Have I mentioned lately that I am available for guest speaking engagements? Well I am. And what I like to do is give a talk and charge a "donation" fee for each attendee (say $5-$10 per person) that can go towards the charity of your choice or we can make it go towards the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™. (There are several reasons that I prefer to have a donation fee one of which is that as a Certified Rapid Resolution Therapist® I agree to do pro bono work and such guest speaking qualifies for my pro bono time)
I also am available for guest speaking at any organization you may be a part of such as Rotary, Chamber of Commerce, Business and Professional Women's Foundation, and so many more.
So just drop me a line @ tara@mylifecoachtara.com or give me a call at 573-754-0348. I'd be very excited and honored to speak at your next meeting!
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

Smile and pass it on

2011-09-27T14:52:00.000-05:00

The best feeling in world is seeing someone smile and knowing that you were the reason why.

I don't have a clue who this quote is by but I happened upon it on Facebook a few weeks back and well it struck a cord with me. And of course that cord has to do with Rapid Resolution Therapy®. How so you ask? Well it's the end result, for any client, of a session with an RRT therapist. Clients walk out of RRT sessions like they are walking on air. Most of my clients end a session by giving me the biggest bear hug and usually will e-mail a little while later saying how amazing it is to be where they are now emotionally.

Which leads me to this...what does one get from an RRT session? How are they changed, what are the benefits? It's a tad difficult to answer these questions because of the benefits of RRT are lasting, sometimes subtle, and many notice continued change even years later. (I know I do) Basically if someone comes into a session having been disabled due to panic attacks they leave panic attack free, feeling light, joyful, and grateful for giving RRT a chance. (So many people come to RRT after many other forms of counseling have failed to fix the problem they came in for) Someone may come in with having had a nagging sense of anxiety, worry, and fear and leave feeling comfortable in their skin, refreshed, and confident. Others come in having been lost in grief for many years and leave with a renewed sense of connection with their loved one(s). They can see the wonderful things going on in their life currently and be peaceful and calm about things that have transpired. Other times though it's this quiet ability to make decisions easily, and float through stressful situations that prior to their RRT session would have left them emotionally drained. Within that subtle change is the ability to see when and how to better manage life experiences.

Again, these subtle and obvious changes continue to happen months and years after the actual session. But best of all, at the end of a session I get the honor of seeing these amazing smiles come across my clients' faces and later hear how that smiled was passed on to their friends, family, and even their co-workers.

Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

Katy Perry - Firework

2011-09-26T07:00:00.001-05:00

I am a HUGE fan of this song. I can not listen to this song and not tear up, it makes me think of my clients and my young daughter. I have said this before as an RRT therapist I see the light within the person whom I am working with. Like a sculptor sees the statue through the beautiful block of marble. Many things happen n this world that have a traumatic effect on people leaving them feeling and thinking as though they are damaged (You don't have to feel like a waste of space as Katy sings) That damage that someone feels is only temporary and not the truth. "After a hurricane comes a rainbow." The amazing light that people have is always there; those traumatic events that happen draw us away from that amazing light. Even when drawn away it's still there.
I've had the amazing experience to help a young women, not yet a teen get cleared of being molested a few years ago. Her mother and school counselor are in awe of the difference in her just after one RRT session. In fact the school counselor was blown away at the difference. This young lady had been in the counselor's office every day for the past few weeks, suicidal, thinking about cutting herself, to the point the counselor wasn't sure she could handle it any more and referred the child to be hospitalized. (Don't get me wrong there are times that hospitalization is necessary) When Mom called me told me the situation I got her right in and well you've heard the rest.
When clients come in to see me they have already gotten through the hard part...whether that be molestation, rape, child abuse, death, domestic violence...the rest is up to me. It's my job to ignite those fireworks and watch their inner light shine!
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

Emotional Clarity

2011-09-19T07:00:00.001-05:00

“Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” Steve Jobs

Recently a client came to see me just to check in. He's doing fabulous but just likes to check in face to face once in a blue moon. Of course we reviewed the very minor ups and downs that he has experienced and handled so well. In the course of our time together we discussed emotional clarity.
Emotional clarity, to me, means to be able to view the world with out so many emotions getting in the way. From that stand point you can see things more for what they are than what we may think they should be or could be. We are able to look at a situation and know if we can make a difference, if so how, and if not feel comfortable to move on to the next thing on our journey. And in doing so there's little to no second guessing how we handled it.
With emotional clarity we can be connected to our true essence- who we are. When we are connected to who we are versus what others want us to be or how we think we should be then our inner voice has the ability to ring through and guide us. It leads us directly to who we want to become rather than our emotions leading us from one stressful moment to another. Standing in that place of emotional clarity is freeing, light, and easy. I see it not only for myself but I see my clients having similar experiences. Bumps and stressful events arise yet when guided by our inner wisdom those situations seem so small and well secondary.
I've been a client to other forms of counseling, I have done other forms of counseling as a counselor but RRT clears the path for emotional clarity.

Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

Grief from an RRT perspective

2011-09-11T10:20:00.001-05:00

When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us. - Alexander Graham Bell

Today is the 10th anniversary of 9/11. There are lots and lots of posts and statuses out there about 9/11, today, yesterday, and this past week. The quote I posted reminded me of grief and how many people get "stuck" or "frozen" within grief. There's a belief that in order to honor our loved ones we must grieve. Sometimes people grieve for decades. Met anyone like that? Notice how time seems to have stopped for them, like a part of their mind is lost in another time? That's what I'm talking about when I say people can become stuck or frozen in grief. In fact a part of their mind really is locked up in that time, they may not even be able to see the good things that have happened since then. They may honestly be unable to focus on the good things in life that are currently going on. That person may not actually be able to think back to the good times they had with their loved one(s). So I say no thanks to grieving.

Grief doesn't have to run someone's life. The traumatic loss of a loved one(s) can be resolved and the person can move one, move forward, and be able to enjoy life again. They can have a sense of continued connection with their love one(s) and still feel joy and gratitude. There are so many other ways to honor our loved one(s). The loved one(s) that I honor I'm pretty sure are more excited about my being present in my life than sad and sorrowful about them. Grief counseling classes can help bring about this perspective.

Courtney Armstrong, LPC recently did a short TV interview (author of Transforming Traumatic Grief) about grief and 9/11...check it out!

On this anniversary of 9/11 stay present in your life and do something filled with joy and gratitude not only for the lives lost but also for the men and women who did everything they could to save as many people on that horrible day! We have soooo many heroes out there!!!

Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

The 411 part 3

2011-09-06T14:56:00.001-05:00

Who can benefit from RRT? Well just about anyone. Now Dr. Jon Connelly works with all kinds of people with many types of concerns. I'm going to speak to what I have and continue to be successful with and have experience with. (Different therapists work better with certain issues and just innately attract different types of people)
Anxiety
Panic Attacks
Guilt/Shame
Grief
Post Traumatic Stress
Anger/Resentment
Trauma (of all kinds)
Self-destructive behaviors
Weight management (my clients tell me getting their "stuff"cleared has opened new pathways towards being healthier and loosing weight)

My little niche' in the RRT world is survivors of sexual violence, women and men, adolescents and adults. But it's not the only thing I do in my RRT office.

Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

The 411 part 2

2011-09-03T14:46:00.001-05:00

What's the point of clearing out a trauma? Well like I noted in a previous post when something happens that traumatic it leaves an impression on our subconscious mind. Our subconscious mind then creates emotions to try to motivate us to do something, usually about the traumatic event that happened. Those emotions then influence our behaviors and reactions to our environment. Typically people realize that those emotions and behaviors are not working to their best advantage.
When I clear out the trauma then my clients begin to feel much better, very quickly like before they even walk out my door, and then with their emotional mind in a state that is more advantageous for them their behaviors and reactions immediately begin to change as well. Their are able to see what is possible and beneficial for them as well as for others round them. They can act on those thoughts in a way that is also possible and beneficial.
Here's the thing with RRT it's not like you feel better now for a short time. Ever had a conversation with someone and you felt great after telling them about a problem your having but just a bit later that problem starts to haunt you again? Or have you ever had a traumatic event happen and every once in a while it creeps into your awareness and well...haunts you? With RRT those things are cleared out, cleaned up, organized and filed away so that they are unable to haunt you. You will see them in a very different light without all the emotional stuff weighing you down. So you don't walk out of my office feeling better for a short amount of time, it lasts, in fact your mind will continue to update and organize it's self even without me being around.
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

The 411 Tara style

2011-09-01T14:32:00.001-05:00

Recently I have been investigating marketing through advertisements in local papers. This has lead me to meet a few newspaper sales women and thus explain what it is I do. First off RRT can be hard to describe quickly. Secondly it's one of those things you have to experience to really get to know what it is, like buying new shoes- you have to try them on and walk around in them before you really know if they are comfortable. RRT, ya really have to experience it to really get a feel for what it does.
Here's my jist on RRT; the quick and dirty version:
If you're reading this you know how to work a computer which means likely you realize how complicated a computer is. And you know that on occasion you get this little notice that pops us stating some software needs to be updated and so you click the update now and button and a few moments later that software is supposedly working better than it had been. Also it's quite likely you own or can operate a car. And you of course then know that that car is also a complicated machine which requires regular maintenance and tune ups. (I'm not saying everyone tunes up their car regularly though!) Well the human mind is more complicated than a computer or car. Therefore it's prone to problems just by it's sheer complexity. Thus it needs to be tuned up or have glitches repaired occasionally. I have the ability to repair those glitches and tune up the human mind.

Now a hammer...not so complicated. If I gave you a hammer and a computer which one could you break first? The computer right? All's you have to do is breath on that computer and it's likely to need something repaired. Human minds are complicated, WAAAY more complicated than a hammer.

Throughout our life we experience traumatic things (trauma in my world is anything that is weird, unexpected, unusual, violent, scary, or upsetting. And there's Big T trauma: rape, violent crimes, and Little t traumas: having to put your nose in the corner in third grade for chewing bubble gum) Trauma to the human mind is like being T-bones in your car by another car. It leaves an impression on the subconscious mind. When you have a car accident you need a body shop guy to work out the dents, fix any damage, and repaint your car so it looks like new again. Well not only can I tune up the human mind I can work out the dents and get the human mind working better than it did prior to the traumatic event.

Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

How?

2011-08-30T22:04:00.000-05:00

On a fairly regular basis I am asked how I do what I do? In other words how can I handle listening to other people's problems and the traumas they have survived? And I'm asked this by client as they talk about their concerns...
Well for one I have the ability to understand how it has been for them and not put myself into their shoes thus I stay present for them to get them free and clear. But today I was reminded of the heart of how, or more like why I do what I do.
Today I met a young woman, just in middle school who was molested a few years back by a stranger. She makes excellent grades, has a perfect attendance, goes to church regularly, is beautiful inside and out, she lights up a room when she smiles and laughs yet she has become more and more withdrawn. She has distanced herself from her family, she had experimented with cutting, bulimia, and admitted to being fueled by anger, guilt, and sadness. For reasons beyond her control or mine her first session had to be short and sweet. I was able to clear the guilt and shame she's had for several years about being the survivor of a sexual assault. She was smiling and laughing and told her Mom we talked about animals but that she was feeling better. (yes we talked about animals but there was a reason that we did!)
No, I admit, in the short short time we had for our first session I didn't get a chance to clear everything, but she was willing to come back next week so I can finish what I started.
So that's why I do what I do, so I can give a chance to a young woman to go through life feeling good about herself. So she can NOT be haunted by her past. So she can move forward with her head held high and her inner light shining brightly. And that why leads me to be able to complete the "How do I do what I do!"
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

The downside

2011-08-26T14:15:00.000-05:00

I know I rave and rave about Rapid Resolution Therapy® on a regular basis. It just dawned on me the past few weeks there is a slight downside...I only see my clients maybe one to three times and then their done with me. I get to meet some really cool cats in my office. People with amazing stories of survival, things that are like more for the movies than real life. And their just really fun to be with, and then their traumas are cleared and off they go. I guess the flip side is it makes room to meet even more cool cats and do some more healing.
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

Pro Bono

2011-08-16T11:53:00.000-05:00

A little known, or maybe not even known fact is that as a Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist we agree to do pro bono work. Of course the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™ focus is survivors of sexual violence, but there are a lot of other traumatic events happening out there that RRT can clear up. Any who...recently I have had the privilege of doing some pro bono work. One client was a long distance referral from a RRT practitioner in Florida, his co-worker knew someone in my area that could really benefit from RRT, and she came in and well she left amazed at the benefits.
Today I had the opportunity to provide RRT, pro bono, for a fellow RRT practitioner's relative. Again I just have such a deep gratitude for this work that I now have the ability to clear out traumas, sexual or otherwise. That gratitude was enlarged by the fact that the client called her relative (A RRT practitioner) to tell her how great the session went and how great she felt. Then that practitioner called and thanked me to the point I think I may have blushed.
Bottom line if you know someone out there who can benefit from RRT but they don't have the financial means to pay for it, well there's 200+ of us who have agreed, as part of our certification to do pro bono work, have them call up one of us and just ask! Here's the list of providers.

Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

Better than drugs

2011-08-02T18:04:00.000-05:00

Well to be more exact I was told this week that the work I do with Rapid Resolution Therapy® is better than any medication a doctor could prescribe. Now this came from a client who also does not use other "drugs." For me it's a compliment.
This particular client came to see me for the first time right after my first RRT training. We have an inside joke that she's a guinea pig client for me. She has been willing to be a part of my learning curve. She came in with a lot on her emotional plate; molestation, childhood abuse, parents were alcoholics, her current boyfriend is an alcoholic, panic attacks, depression, anger, guilt...
So today she came in for what turned out to be a very minor, easy breezy tune up. The session ended with a hug full of gratitude and love. What could be better in my professional world?
On another note about my professional world it is very official now that I am the Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™. I will use another blog post, another day, to explain what the ISSV™is and what our mission is, etc. For now we have a Facebook page. So please drop by our page and "Like" us. The website will be up soon...it's in the design phase right now.
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Another therapist's testimonial

2011-07-07T17:36:00.000-05:00

As a Professional Counselor I have used eclectic styles of modalities to accomplish results with my clients but when I became familiar with Rapid Resolution Therapy™ I realized that it is the most beneficial tool for getting fast and lasting results for the client. I had trauma issues that I thought were dealt with but during one of my trainings in Rapid Resolution Therapy™ I realized that I had only been covering it up. Tara S. Dickherber Certified Rapid Resolution Therapist completely cleared that trauma in 30 minutes.

James Brown, M.A., MFT/ NCC LPC MHSP Sevierville TN.

Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

A mother's testimonial

2011-07-06T07:49:00.002-05:00

My 17-year-old daughter and I used to disagree on everything. She seemed upset most of the time, and every interaction turned into a fight. My frustration level had reached its’ peak when I finally decided to call Tara and set up an appointment. From the moment she met my daughter things began to change for the better. Even my daughter said: “Tara made me feel very comfortable and relaxed. From the moment I walked in, I felt that she was eager to help me. She treated me as a friend instead of a patient. I had been feeling very anxious about staying at home. I felt very trapped. Tara took this anxiety away and now I feel more relaxed and calm.” My daughter is relaxed and happy, and we are able to laugh together. We have serious conversations and they do not get blown out of proportion. Tara, you are a miracle worker! Rapid Resolution Therapy™ took care of my daughter’s anxiety in one session and our relationship is healed.
Holly Craig, LPC, NCC, MS Ed. mother of Annelise Klank Naperville, IL

Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Divorce

2011-07-05T20:52:00.000-05:00

Oh the big D word, divorce, is in and of its self a type of trauma. Traumatic for the adults who are divorcing and traumatic for the kids that are involved in the whole ordeal. I recently had a client come to see me who was in the process of a divorce. Her parents had divorced when she was young and her current divorce was bringing back to life her parents' divorce. After hearing what was currently going on it made sense the decision she had made about getting a divorce. What needed to be cleared was the trauma from her parents' divorce and how that situation was greatly impacting how she was responding to her own children. I did what needed to be done in her Rapid Resolution Therapy™session. When we were near the end I asked about another issue she had noted she was concerned about, it was in regards to her soon to be ex-husband. She stated that there was nothing left to clear on that issue and that all would be fine.
Today I followed up with her, as I do often with clients. She responded that they had told the children, and that went well, and that her husband finally moved out. Even after like three years of being an RRT therapist I'm still amazed at the effects this work has upon clients and their life. Who knew that one short session would lead to creating peace amongst a family that had been in turmoil?
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

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2011-06-24T14:06:00.000-05:00

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Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Breaking traditions

2011-06-23T16:02:00.000-05:00

Recently I have been realizing how much I have been breaking traditions with the typical counseling field. One way I am doing that is that I am an exclusive Rapid Resolution Therapy™ therapist. So what you say? Well it is traditional to have a main therapeutic modality in counseling but usually counselors also pull from many other modalities as they see fit for their individual client.
Another way I've broken tradition is I no longer offer one hour sessions. Why? Because Rapid Resolution Therapy™ doesn't lend it's self well to one hour sessions. In fact when clearing traumas, which is what I do, it usually takes me 1-3 hours to complete my task at hand. I now schedule everyone for appointments that may take up to 3 hours. This also leads to another way I've veered off the beaten path...I charge per session versus per hour.
This change is fairly recent and I have had a lot of questions about it. Let me try to explain. When you go in to have a root canal (yeah who really wants one of those?) and you ask "How much will this cost me?" what you don't hear is "Well I charge $150.00 per 15 minutes?" Of course that would lead to another question of "How long will this take?" Which is not followed by "Oh 2 maybe 3 15 minutes..." No your are charged per root canal, right? Same with any surgery or medical procedure. You're charged per procedure. As an RRT therapist it takes me 1-3 hours to clear any said trauma that is brought into my office. When I've cleared that trauma, its done, finito. Sometimes there may be another trauma someone wants cleared after the first session. Guess what?! If you have to have another root canal done they charge you for that separately. Different trauma, different session. Honestly may times a client comes in with a few traumas they would like for me to take care of, and in those 3 hours I clear as much as I can.
The last tradition shattering step I have taken is I don't take insurance or EAP. This has really rattled some. Not just potential clients but friends as well. Let me tell you why though. One of my biggest beefs about being an insurance provider (and I was for many years) is I have to create a diagnosis for each client to justify the treatment I provide. Doesn't sound too bad you think? Well some insurances not only ask for a diagnosis they want some details about your treatment, others require that the client fill out surveys on a regular basis and I must fax those in. Once faxed in then the insurance company looks at it and then dictates to me what I am supposed to do. If I have not handled it the way they think I should then they call me up and want ALL details of the session so that I can justify even further as to why I managed the session(s) the way I did. Now where's the client's confidentiality? What happened to HIPAA?? No really? I have to hand out to each person this HIPAA form that's like 2-3 pages long about the importance of their privacy but for the insurance companies I have to hand over ALL the client's information? Yeah doesn't sit well with me. Then add in the fact if a client is heaven forbid- HOSPITALIZED, upon their next session some insurance companies require that I speak to them for at least a half and hour about the client's return session. And I have to do it on their time schedule, they don't care that I have other clients scheduled to see me, I must stop those sessions to take to them. Lastly they don't want to pay for 1-3 hour sessions. But like I said, you come in with a trauma, say violently mugged when you were 29, in 1-3 hours I've cleared that out and it will no longer haunt you. The insurance company though would rather pay for you to see me one a week for the next 2 years in hopes that that type of counseling will ease the emotional charge of that traumatic event. Hmmmm...get it completely done or chat about it for the next 2 years? Me I vote overhaul the trauma and be done with it!
I'm not your typical mainstreamed therapist, but I am passionate and excited about the work I do. I guess if being a Rapid Trauma Resolution™ therapist means I have to break traditions and blaze a new path then so be it!

Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Cha-cha-changes 2

2011-06-15T10:40:00.000-05:00

Well things have shifted again in my professional life. I have just been offered a different position within the IRRT family, in fact if this go through I will NOT be a Social Media Director, I will be an Executive Director of a portion of the IRRT. I'm just kind of like in shock about how this has dramatically changed in such a short time, yet the new position seems like a much better fit for me...
I'll keep ya posted...
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Cha-cha-changes

2011-06-13T08:25:00.001-05:00

There have been many changes going on in my professional life. One is that I have been hired by the Institute for Rapid Resolution Therapy as the Social Media Director. This sounds big and exciting. What it really is is I will now be managing the IRRT blog and newsletter thus I will be attending more RRT trainings to get photos and interesting information for said blog and newsletter. Because of this little side job I can now afford a new office. I will still be located in St. Charles, MO but I will be sub-leasing from a friend of mine. In fact she will also be sub-leasing to another friend of mine and this has created the ability for the three of us to get a much bigger space with room for our own trainings, and each of us will have our own individual office for counseling sessions.

My official move in date is June 17, 2011. Once moved in my office hours and pricing will change. How you ask? Well all sessions will be scheduled for 3 hours. My appointments will be Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday at 930am, 200pm, and 5pm. The fee will be $350 for session. Please note this is per session versus per hour. I will still be available via phone Monday through Friday between the hours of 900am and 500pm. I am no longer providing phone or Skype sessions!
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Tough decisions

2011-06-10T03:04:00.000-05:00

There comes a time in every pet owners life that they have to make a tough decision. Today is that day for me. My cat, Frankie, that I have had with me for 16+ years has gotten to the age and health status that I am going to have to put her down. I know logically and in my heart it is what's best for her. She's always been a fat cat who had lots of spunk. Well her weight has dropped way below where it should be, let alone below her normal fattness. And 6+ years ago she went into renal failure and yet somehow survived but the side effects of having barely any kidney function are catching up to her.
Frankie is a cat whom I found at the humane society when she was a tiny yet ferocious kitten. She spent the majority of her life scratching and batting at everyone. She's always ruled over the greyhounds I've had, even though either one of them out weighed her by, well, a lot. Even to this day my current greyhound, Marco, just let's her have his huge bed. (She has a heated one but prefers his) Most of my nieces and nephews have learned about respecting animals because of my cat, she'd just scratch them if they picked her up. Yet 3 & 1/2 years ago I brought home my baby daughter and Frankie has been extremely tolerant of her. Ella's at the age now that she enjoys carrying Frankie around, or making her lay in her lap so she can pet her...believe me we have talked over and over about giving kitty space, Ella just loves to be close with Frankie. She even tries to sit in Frankie's heated bed with her. That cat, who used to be so mean, just deals with it. Yes she has a pretty pissed off look on her face but she just deals.
And let's talk about my husband, who told me when we met how he was allergic to cats and really didn't like them. Of course he instantly became Frankie's favorite person, and within no time my husband feel head over heals for my mean, fat, cat. She used to follow him around the house. Actually one of the really odd but nice things about my cat, she's a nighttime sleeper. Yes she sleeps at night and is up during the day. It's been that ways since forever. She used to come downstairs and remind me it was time for bed.
Now my cat even has a bit of a fan club. Due to her age and kidney issues when we go out of town someone has to come by, feed her, and give her her meds. A few of my friends, and even some of their kids, really love my cat. Likewise she has been very pleasant and loving to them as well. (In fact she's nicer to them about taking her meds than she is with me.)

(That's my dog in the background, and my Frankie, tolerating my daughter Ella. Frankie was a fat cat!)
So today is not one of my best days. I have to let my beloved Frankie go. I know it's what's best for her but man does this hurt. Every time I have to go through this I think maybe I shouldn't get another pet. Yet my daughter now has a fish and a turtle and is already talking to us about getting another cat. Her fish I'm not so attached to but that turtle is really freaking cute! And yes, I'll place bets we're going to get another cat soon. But today...well I'm really sad.
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Why Horses Are Good for Little Girls

2011-06-01T07:18:00.000-05:00

I've had a love affair with horses since I was 2. It has not gone away and I have no desire for it to go away. As I blog, quickly, about this article I am planning my morning which involves getting out to the barn to spend some time with my much spoiled Throughbred/Quarter horse cross gelding Dream. He's big, he's a goof ball, and my #1 therapist!

Why Horses Are Good for Little Girls

Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

San Antonio, Texas

2011-05-23T09:49:00.000-05:00

I just returned from a wonderful opportunity to do some Social Media work for Dr. Jon Connelly whilst he taught a RRT Level II training in San Antonio, Texas. In fact the social media stuff I was supposed to be doing was put on the back shelf because Jon asked me to lead small groups, and train using video's of his sessions, etc. So I taught more than socialized! (But that's OK!) What was so great was the energy and excitement of the attendees. I met a lot of people with a huge passion and talent for Jon's work. It's not easy being taught one way, being boxed in by organizations that hire social workers and counselors to come to RRT training and learn that there's a whole DIFFERENT way to approach the mind and emotional wellness. In fact it's a way that creates healers versus rent-a-friends.
I don't have pics to post yet, but I will. Someone else brought a much better camera and took the pics. So things to look forward too! You might even get to see a candid shot or two of me teaching!!
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Yes! You survived!

2011-04-28T11:52:00.000-05:00

Here I am today, sitting at home watching the PBS special "The Buddha," because I have time to myself with no clients on the schedule and my daughter is in school. I have read about Buddha. I have friends who consider themselves Buddhists. This is what struck me today...Buddha purposely put himself in situations to try to help him understand suffering so that he then may become enlightened. In fact, the exact point in his life they were speaking about was the year(s) he starved himself, almost to death. He realized even through this suffering he was not getting the answers he wanted, he was not becoming enlightened. Yet he was at the brink of starving to death and he saw that he needed to seek enlightenment elsewhere. A Buddhist monk was interviewed about this suffering and he basically said of course Buddha didn't reach enlightenment, he was only able to focus on his starving body.
So eventually Buddha moved on. And guess what...He survived! He made it through that self inflicted suffering. This is what happens to my clients. They face suffering in many shapes and forms. And they SURVIVE. They freaking make it through it. Many times they ask (something to the effect) why didn't I make more enlightened choices at the time of that suffering? Guess what?! Your mind could only focus on helping you survive, getting you through that time of suffering. You made it to my office- NOW is the time for enlightenment!
Seriously when I heard the suffering my clients go through so many times I want to get up, jump up and down and yell like a cheerleader: "YES! YOU SURVIVED!!!" Surviving suffering should just land you with this great T-Shirt saying I survived...(fill in the blank.) It may sound odd to say but those times of suffering are what create depth and make us interesting. (By no means am I saying go out and starve yourself so you have something to talk about at the next cocktail party)
Today take a moment to celebrate the fact you survived!
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Books to ponder

2011-04-27T09:38:00.000-05:00

I have had this desire to learn more about Masaru Emoto's research about water and the power of positive and negative thoughts. Well my husband stumbled upon one of his books "The True Power of Water." Oh man am I loving this books! I know there are those who say it's a hoax, but really this makes more sense to me than a lot of other stuff. Let's get real here...the Tobacco industry "proved" for 20 years that smoking DID NOT cause lung cancer. (We all know the actual truth to that!!)

Now another book that I have JUST found out will be released this year was written by my RRT buddy Courtney Armstrong, "Transforming Traumatic Grief." She discusses the RRT approach to clearing grief as well as research that supports Dr. Connelly's concepts. It's possible this book will be released on Amazon As early as June of 2011. I guarantee I will be getting this book, reading it forwards and backwards and then getting Courtney to sign it for me!!

So just a few books to consider for your summer reading!
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Negation

2011-04-26T09:44:00.000-05:00

Anxiety is one of the most prevalent issues I see as a counselor, before I became RRT Certified and even now. Most anxiety is related to fears about the future. One thing I know about the subconscious mind (and remember the subconscious mind is like 99% of our mind) is that it doesn't understand negation. So if I hear a client say "I don't want to be depressed any more," what 99% of that client's mind hears is "I want to be depressed." I've also started noticing how a client, or even a friend may state what they do want but what I notice is likely that what they are really truly focused on is what they don't want. Like recently I was having a conversation with an RRT friend (Holly) and she stated "I want more of that, more clients, more speaking engagements, etc." What I quietly heard was that there was likely a facet of her mind really focused on what she didn't have, enough clients, enough speaking engagements, etc. Being the bold person that I am (or so I have been told and described as by many people lately...) I just flat out asked if she was more focused on the lack there of versus creating more of. And she verified my suspicion. This all leads to the mind creating anxiety in the mind's effort to motivate you to do better in the future. (Hey guess what...The future doesn't exist, only right now exists)
What I realized in that conversation was how much my mind and I have been focused on the Lack there of...such as clients. Yep as much as I love what I do and have been marketing myself my schedule is lacking appointments with clients. That is what I have been focused on. What I know is that to make things happen I need to truly focus on what I want (a lovely balance of family and professional life) and picture the end result clearly (as a sculptor sees the block of marble and the statue she will create with that block) and the rest will happen. So many times we can see what we want our end result to be but then our mind gets caught up in the HOW of it. Versus the would that be OK to be that way? Any negation in there such as "I don't see HOW that's going to work out," will totally trip up getting to the end result.
After my conversation with my friend, Holly, I realized how much anxiety I had been carrying in regards to my professional life. What I do know is that in the next year or two things are really going to take off for me. I know this because I have set out plans with a few people on the direction I want to take my practice and what role I want to play in it. I'm really excited about the directions I'm going. What's so new to me is that looking at that long view I feel calm and excited all at the same time. However a facet of my mind has really been focused on the short view, like the next few months. I've had a plan/goal in my head for the next few months yet I haven't been verbalizing it to anyone but myself and maybe Holly. Last night I noted that my next step for the short view was to verbalize it...here it is...
I started out wanting to see enough clients to cover my rent and then some. Well I've met and exceeded that goal. Now I want to push it further. My new goal is to work (ie seeing clients) 6-10 hours a week. To also market to a new clinic or other facility at least 1x per month. (I have to admit so far the places I have spoken too, except for one, have sent me clients- Thanks to them!!)
Believe it or not that just drained my short view anxiety...so thanks to you for reading!
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Research is proving what RRT therapists know

2011-04-22T07:17:00.000-05:00

I was notified by Facebook the other day that I was tagged in a note by a fellow Rapid Resolution Therapist. So of course I read the note, and this is what it said:
"Just returned from the annual California Association of Alcohol & Drug Educators (CAADE) conference. One of the presenters talked about current brain imaging research. His entire presentation was about the difference between the "conscious" part of the mind vs. the deeper inner mind or "emotional" part. He discussed how current treatments like Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy do not address this deeper part of the mind (goat brain). He discussed how they are trying to develop medications to work on this area of the brain. Rapid Resolution Therapy does this quickly, effortlessly, and painlessly without the need for medication." -Dr. John K. Smith, Ph.D (as posted in a note on Facebook)

Dr. Smith is an amazing RRT therapist out in sunny California. I have been fortunate enough to attend trainings with him and just adore him personally and professionally. When I read his note I immediately asked if I could borrow his words and share them on my little blog. (Obviously he said yes!)

Our human mind is very complex. About 99% of it is subconscious mind, or goat mind as Dr. Smith noted. Only about 1% is conscious mind. In RRT we address that goat mind. Why? Because it controls all emotions, behaviors, and most of you (and my) thoughts. Thus that's the part of the mind responsible for acting out, feeling those yucky feelings, and responding to thoughts that really have not been helpful. That 1% conscious mind is about as big as a snowflake and it's responsible for some of your thoughts and for when you learn new things or difficult things (like trying to learn trigonometry.) It just makes sense that if the subconscious mind is the part of the mind creating those feelings, behaviors, and thoughts someone no longer wants to have then clear the part of the mind that's making those things happen. Like if your car needs a tune up don't have the mechanic put a new muffler on, have him tune up the car!

I know some don't see how powerful and effective Rapid Resolution Therapy is, but science is starting to show what I already know...eventually others will see what I see.

Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Tooting my horn

2011-04-16T12:29:00.000-05:00

Just wanted to note that I have been listed/featured again here.
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Magic

2011-04-15T07:00:00.003-05:00

Way back, in some other blog post about Rapid Resolution Therapy, I discussed how I have had clients refer to me as magical. Like I will tell them that such and such is going to happen and thus they are going to have to rise up to that challenge and face it head on, with clarity and ease. And yes those things do happen, maybe not exactly as I have said it would but the general scenario happens and they do rise up and face it with clarity and ease.
Well there happen to be other "magical" RRT therapists out there. One is Ms. Melinda Paige. She's the reason I have my own little section on the RRT monthly newsletter (to do with as I pretty much please...scary to give me that much power) and now Melinda has gone and done it again.
But let me back up a tad to better explain this so called magic. RRT therapists are like sculptors. A sculptor sees now only the block of marble but the statue that it will become. We, as RRT therapists, see our client not only as they are in front of us but as they will be when they leave our office cleared and feeling excited and peaceful. Thus there are times that very particular situations I can "see" arising for my clients and I have just found it beneficial to them to tell them those things. So a few months ago Melinda says to me you need to just write an article for the RRT newsletter each month. (OK she didn't really SAY it to me this was all e-mail communication...) And I was like oh that would be cool, get more chances to write, about something I love, and thus get people motivated to give RRT a chance. (PS if you click on the link to the newsletter and then to the newsletter THAT'S Melinda and Jon in the front page picture)
Well today I actually TALKED to Melinda, I had e-mailed her wanted to just consult with her about some work related things. And as we are talking we start discussing the Level III RRT training this year and how great it is that we have some additional trainings available...and what does Melinda say to me? Well Tara what kind of workshop are you going to offer at a Level III training? I just laughed it off, and was like yeah whatever. However a facet of my mind was like "Hey you have like a year to get your butt in gear and make this happen. Let's consider this." Let's face it, I like to be the center of attention, I like applause and I love being a coach/consultant. (Not as much as I love being an RRT therapist though)
So my day goes on and I do what it is that I do as a Mom...blah blah blah. My darling husband gets home, we watch some TV and when it's all done I tell him about my conversation with Ms. Melinda. He looks at me and says: "Well you have a year to figure it out. You need to consider this. This is something you can do." And I'm saying, to myself mind you- Yeah right?! What do I have to offer? I don't have some specialty niche in RRT. But I'll consider it.
Then I go to bed. And when does my little friend the creativity fairy like to come? Between the hours of 10pm and 1130pm CST. Boy did she drop one on me. I've got it. It's something that Melinda "laid in my lap" several months ago. Even before the hey you need to write an article every month...
So for now I'm gonna keep my "workshop" under wraps. I need to get the kinks all worked out and make sure I'm not going to be stepping on any toes along the way. But the fact is what I think I need to do for a workshop people are already asking me to help teach them now...Makes sense.
Now I just have to find out what Melinda's fees are for all her managing and PR work she does for me!
In the mean time though- Rapid Resolution Therapy ROCKS and I'm so glad I found this new path for myself, personally and professionally!
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Perfectionism

2011-04-12T09:34:00.000-05:00

Being a camp counselor for Camp Weloki gives me the great opportunity to meet amazing teens. I have a driving passion to make the world better for them, especially the young women I meet. One teen I had the great privilege to work one on one with while we were at camp. Sadly I left without getting her info so I could follow up with her. Move forward a month and my nephew went to camp and low and behold she was a camper the weekend he was. And I was also blessed to pick my nephew up thus getting a chance to see her and she looked SO amazing. She openly gave me this amazing loving hug telling me she was doing so well. Well now we are connected via Facebook (look how small the world is with Facebook!)
She posted this great quote:
Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.

How many times do I see clients trying to obtain perfection? Seriously, I see a lot of clients, especially women and young ladies trying to be perfect. Trying to be perfect Mothers, perfect wives, perfect students, perfect employees...Guess what!? Our failures are our greatest teachers in how to live life. Our imperfections, our mistakes make us interesting- they build character. These imperfections are what make us interesting! And in striving for perfection our minds then create anxiety and likely depression.

Think about this this way- when you are at a social gathering do you enjoy someone's story about how successful they are or how they survived trials and tribulations to either succeed or move onto a new endeavor? Yeah, I want to hear those interesting stories of what has "defined" their life and who they are. To hear how someone just succeeds and succeeds gets boring and I move on to another conversation. Really to be perfect is a repellent. And the honest truth is perfection is an illusion, an abstract concept that doesn't exist. So let your imperfections show! We will all find you more interesting and fun to be around!
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Dr. Jon Connelly - Rapid Resolution Therapy: Clinical Hypnosis: A Natural Approach to Increasin...

2011-04-07T12:14:00.000-05:00

Dr. Jon Connelly - Rapid Resolution Therapy: Clinical Hypnosis: A Natural Approach to Increasin...: "An Excerpt from Dr. Jon Connelly's Training There are many myths or rumors about hypnosis. It is much easier for people to understand what..."

Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Veterans

2011-04-07T08:59:00.000-05:00

As most people know, including Rapid Resolution Therapists, many war veterans (or maybe most of them) come home with signs and symptoms of PTSD. My RRT friend Courtney Armstrong, LPC recently posted on her blog about how she was honored to clear an American veteran of his PTSD. Reading her post brought tears to me eyes and I thought it would be nice to pass along her post.
Please check it out!
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Deep rooted problems

2011-03-31T23:33:00.000-05:00

I've been out marketing my little Rapid Resolution Therapy bootie off lately. Today I had the pleasure of bring lunch to Pain Management Services and discussing briefly about RRT and myself. The doctors, physician's assistant, and staff were all delightful and funny. I was struck though by the question of "Can you work with an older person with deep rooted problems?" Why of course I can! Since fully jumping into the world of RRT I don't really understand what a "deep rooted" problem is versus any other emotional blockage. It's all the same stuff, a problematic way the subconscious mind has been working. And YES I can clear that stuff up effectively and quickly. I guess it comes down to we live in a society that has been lead to believe that some unwanted, yucky emotional stuff we're just stuck with. Guess what, that's just not true! If you or anyone you know wants to live life differently and be in a different place emotionally then yes an RRT therapist can make that happen for you. There was at least one time that in a joking way someone poked fun of the fact I was honest about within a few hours I have been able to clear people of things that have haunted them for years. I understand the skepticism. However most things in life have taken great leaps forward just by someone thinking and doing WAAAAAY outside of the box. And that my friend is what every Rapid Resolution Therapist is doing, going outside of the proverbial counseling box so that clients can actually heal from the traumas they have encountered in their life.
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

HeartMath Definition

2011-03-25T08:38:00.001-05:00

Just something I came across on Facebook and wanted to share!
HeartMath Definition

Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

RRT on the news

2011-03-25T07:00:00.000-05:00

Wanted to share how RRT was mentioned on a Chicago news station! So check it out here!
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

A life with out meaning

2011-03-24T08:40:00.000-05:00

As a Rapid Resolution Therapist who does RRT but has also been a client of RRT life looks very different on the other side...in a good way. Because of the dynamic impact RRT has had on my life I have a whole different perspective of my life...this post happens to be something that I was pondering one day while sitting in traffic...

We, as humans, have very complex minds. This complexity has created amazing things like computers, airplanes, and my favorite chocolate chip cookies. It also can cause some glitches in our day and lives. One of those glitches is that our mind creates meanings to so many things. For example when someone experiences a traumatic event, say being raped, that person’s mind may create a meaning that what happened to their body means they are lesser of a person. Now you and I know that that is just not so. But mind creates a meaning and the meaning is always 100% worse than the actual event.
    However even in everyday life mind creates meanings. One meaning my mind used to create, a lot, was when I was driving on the highway and got behind someone who was going slow that meant that “the Universe” wanted me to slow down, enjoy life more, and save me from getting into a car accident. WHAT?? So silly right? One I heard a friend tell me time and time again is when she saw a hawk fly over it meant she had a big decision she had to make soon. Uhhhh OK.
    Let me ask you a question- When a zebra is out on the savanna and there’s a storm and lightening streaks across the sky does the zebra look up and think: “The Gods must be angry?” No. He looks up and sees light. But humans sure have been known to look up, see lightening and think “The Gods must be angry.”
    A life without meaning is actually so different and freeing. That car that I was behind that was going slow, it just was some driver going slower than me. The driver had no intention or knowledge that he or she was going slower than I would like to go. It’s up to me to either pass or just be patient. That person who had been raped is still a worthwhile person with many positive qualities. What happened was icky, and we don’t have to like it, but it means nothing about who that person is. That hawk that flew over my friend didn’t care or know about any decision she had or didn’t have to make. In fact it’s likely that hawk was looking for food or a mate. Hawks don’t care about what we do with our lives! And that lightening, well it was caused by some atmospheric conditions.   So when things happen in my life or the lives of my clients, it’s just something happening. There’s no meaning behind it.
    I recently just received an e-mail from a client whom I had cleared of all kinds of trauma: molestation, abandonment, abuse from now ex-husband, etc. She noted in the e-mail she wasn’t sure what it all meant to have had the chance to see me and be cleared of it all. She then went on to ask where to look to seek meaning from life about things that she was still troubled with, say from an animal she recently saw. There’s nothing more to the session than a chance to get her mind updated and optimized. And well any animal she sees is doing it’s own thing, it has nothing to do with what her minds doing, thinking, or feeling.
    When we are able to notice how other’s and even our own minds create meanings and know that those meanings are meaningless then life becomes lighter and easier. When a disagreement or argument happens that’s all it is, a disagreement or argument. It has nothing to do with who you are or who that person is. When your stuck in traffic that’s all it is, traffic. It is what it is, no more no less. Think about it, how many times has your mind created some meaning that lingered for what seemed like forever about some situation you experienced? Now take that meaning out of the equation and what do you have? A much simpler situation that likely feels so much easier to deal with now.
    A life without meaning is very different, in fact it frees energy to lead a life with purpose, passion, and peace of mind!   And Rapid Resolution Therapy can and does free that energy!!
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Parent testimonial

2011-03-22T07:00:00.001-05:00

As a Certified Rapid Resolution Therapist and Certified ScreamFree Parent Leader I, at times, assist clients who happen to be parents seeking to better not only themselves but their families. And I love doing this for parents. About a month back a husband and wife came in to see me, in fact they drove over 2 hours one way just to see me (I was extremely honored by their dedication) both had read Screamfree Parenting and were eager to learn how to better improve their parenting so their children could have a better chance at being emotionally happy and successful. The session went great. Kept in contact with Mom (who happens to be the more techy of the two) Recently I received an e-mail from her and she agreed for me to share it on my little blog here:

"Tara, Things are going great for me and my family. I was able to take the kids to St. Louis Wednesday through Friday for Spring Break. My husband stayed home to work. I was not scared to take them. We had a blast up there. Thank you for all you have done for me and my family. Hope everything is going good for you and your family." Dana C- Herrin, IL

Now Dana had lived her life in the midst of high anxiety and high anger. Both of which are gone for her. In fact we have e-mailed discussing how different life is being calm and grounded with this sense of peace guiding you. These voluntary statements of gratitude are why I love being a Certified Rapid Resolution Therapist!!

Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

My RRT poster child client's testimonial

2011-03-21T09:05:00.000-05:00

Tara Dickherber has been my therapist for over two years. Once she began to use the Rapid Resolution Therapy all the pieces of the puzzle of my emotional quest came together. I have regained the edge that have been seeking for years. I feel more empowered as my authentic self is being expressed. The technique works for me. At surprising moments in everyday life, I re-experience the images that we developed in our sessions. In this way the emotional healing continues. I have greater emotional clarity and control in my life. Even my new female friend is filled with mirth when she is with me. John L- Louisiana, MO
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

I've been published

2011-03-18T07:00:00.004-05:00

So I was honored to be allowed to write an article for the Rapid Resolution Therapy monthly newsletter. Believe me I fretted over this thing. I changed it, tweeked it, had it edited and sent it in. It also forced me to get some new "professional" profile pictures taken. (Having my picture taken in actually traumatic for me, I can't stand it...but the photo turned out pretty good. And it was done by a young, up and coming photographer/model I happen to know because he's my nephew's best friend. Go figure! Cost me a coffee and a soda to get these new pics...ANYWAAAAYS...)
The newsletter just came out yesterday and already I have been getting calls from family and e-mails from friends about it. (Cause I forwarded it to EVERYONE)
The call that was most astonishing was a therapist in Northern California who read it, and called me. I called back and low and behold I may have him convinced that RRT is the way to be. Thus here's to spreading the good news about what Dr. Jon Connelly has created and how powerful Rapid Resolution Therapy is!
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

A therapist's testimonial

2011-03-17T09:03:00.000-05:00

As a therapist we are taught many types of treatment techniques. However Rapid Resolution Therapy, another therapeutic modality, is by far the the fastest process to treat trauma. I myself had a traumatic event that had been haunting me for decades and with in minutes Tara was able to fully and completely clear it up.
Kelly Carney, LPC Hazelwood, MO

Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

It's contageous

2011-03-15T08:58:00.001-05:00

I am SOOOO excited to say that two of my mental wellness professional friends will soon be Rapid Resolution Therapists. Both will be attending the Level I training in Chicago in June. Many people when I talk about how I want more RRT therapists in the St. Louis area (one lives close to where I do, the other friend lives in Wisconsin) they ask if I'm not concerned about the competition. Tell ya what, RRT therapists really don't feel competitive with each other. IN fact we like to have other RRT therapists around to consult with and support each other, as well as help each other out. So right now I am so excited for them and myself to be getting more people certified in Rapid Resolution Therapy because that just means more clients are going to be getting well and joyful!!
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Awesome

2011-03-14T20:58:00.000-05:00

For some positive vibes check out this TED video
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Brain plasticity

2011-03-11T10:38:00.000-06:00

Rapid Resolution Therapy actually is one way to recode the subconscious human mind. So say someone's mind is problematically coded towards depression, anxiety, PTSD...well through RRT the therapist (myself in this situation) actually recodes that problematic facet of one's mind so that their mind is clear, optimized, and working more efficiently.
A good RRT friend of mine, Valerie Smith, posted this article on Facebook about pain and the plasticity of the mind. So check it out, and remember Rapid Resolution Therapy is on the cutting edge of mental health treatment!
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Radical changes

2011-03-10T14:10:00.000-06:00

A little over a month ago I had a 20 something woman come in for her first ever Rapid Resolution Therapy session. She had been suffering from depression, anxiety, and a driving phobia. In her first session she was very closed both physically and emotionally. Her hair was pulled back, she kept her coat on the entire session, and kept her arms crossed most of the session. She was referred by her parents; her step-dad was a previous RRT client of mine. I cleared out all I could in the time we had scheduled.
Of course I followed up, but didn't have her personal e-mail so I e-mailed her mother requesting my client's e-mail. Her mother noted her daughter (my client) was much happier and had been very happy and excited about the session she had with me.
she came in for a second session at which time we addressed her driving phobia. (She lives an hour from my office. And her parents were having to help drive her to her sessions.) At this second session she was much more joyful, open emotionally and physically, and we had a blast! I mean seriously, we laughed until I suspect we both almost pee'd our pants!!
Again I followed up, she noted she'd had a little set back but was getting back on track. A few weeks after that she called me and asked fro another session. Well she just came in yesterday and OMG! Her hair was down, styled and gorgeous. She had make up on, she was vibrant and full of energy and verve! She was talking with her hands! No seriously, this was something I had not experienced with her. She expressed amazing clarity on her life, where she was, and knew where she was going. She was standing up for herself and getting her needs met.
Bottom line- I wish I had video of each of her sessions to share so you could see the transformation. Rapid Resolution Therapy never ceases to amaze me!
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Brutal Honesty

2011-03-06T20:55:00.001-06:00

A few weeks ago I was busy busy busy in my private practice doing Rapid Resolution Therapy. I was clearing out anxiety, anger, phobias (driving/flying) weight issues, and all kinds of other things. And these past few weeks...little to no clients. Boy to be honest I really love working. Keeps me going, energized, excited, and happy. SO seriously, if you've been thinking about it, or thinking about suggesting RRT to someone you love, care for, or just plain want them to get better, get healthier- Bring it on! I'm ready and eager to change lives through Rapid Resolution Therapy!
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC
PS my goal still stands: 6-9 clients per week and I have lots of time slots available!

Mesothelioma

2011-03-04T12:40:00.000-06:00

I just received an e-mail from Emily Walsh at Mesothelioma.com today. She educated me on how coaching can be very helpful to those who have been diagnosed with this disease. She asked if I'd be willing to accept referrals to help those with such needs. Uhhhh YES I would! This website is stocked full of great information and resources. So if you or someone you know is dealing with Mesothelioma please check them out...I've linked to them over on the right side of my blog as well as within this blog!
The truth be told with many challenging diseases counseling/coaching helps the individual and family better handle what they unfortunately have to face. And guess what, Rapid Resolution Therapy gets people through those yucky emotions reactions to such a diagnosis/treatment fast and effectively. Thus I am always up for the chance to help someone get through the bumps in their life quickly and efficiently!
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Mindy's testimonial

2011-02-24T09:11:00.000-06:00

I have said it before Rapid Resolution Therapy can help many things: anger, guilt, grief, depression, anxiety...don't believe me? See what my client's say:

My name is Mindy. I am 39 years old. I have lived all my life being
a very emotional person. Even as a child my feelings were hurt
easily, and it didn't matter what emotion I was feeling whether it
was anger or sadness, I would break down in tears.
When I was 26 years old my husband of 8 years was killed in a wreck.
I was left with a 9 year old son and 3 year old daughter to raise on
my own. That has been 13 years ago and it has been hard to trust
anyone for fear of being left alone again.
I recently got involved with a man who was going through a divorce
and I thought he was everything any woman could want, I believed in
him and trusted him. His wife had left him for another man.
After about 4 months of a wonderful relationship, one I didn't think
was possible for me, he took his wife back and left me. Not only was
I dealing with that, but I started reliving all the feelings I had
gone through when my husband was killed. It was extremely hard to
get through a day of work without having a breakdown and start
crying. All of these uncontrollable emotions were coming over me and
it was affecting every aspect of my life.
My sister had been to see Tara after a horrible relationship and had
miraculous results, so I thought it couldn't hurt. I spent 2-2 hour
sessions with Tara and got rid of a lifetime of emotions that were
holding me back from having a happy and normal life.
For the first session I walked in the door a crying emotional mess.
When I walked out the door I was ready to celebrate life. Her RRT
techniques provided instant relief from my lifetime of emotional
stress. I felt like a new person. I only wish I had gone to her
years ago. I then had more issues with the man that had left me and
other life issues going on and I went to Tara again. I am now able to
better deal with my relationship problems, my job, my family and
anything else that causes me stress in life. I have become a
stronger person in all areas of my life, thanks to Tara.

Mindy is wonderful and a great supporter of Rapid Resolution Therapy!

Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Loss & Grief

2011-02-23T13:36:00.000-06:00

My Rapid Resolution Therapy Mentor, Dr. Jon Connelly just posted this on Facebook:
"What you get from being with someone is the experience. The experiences you have acquired can never be lost. The experiences you have not had cannot be lost either. Therefore, lost is impossible."
Now there's a new way to look at death and change!
The world of Rapid Resolution Therapy is different than anything else you have ever experienced; it's full of joy, peace, excitement, and enlightenment!!
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Quiet help

2011-02-22T18:32:00.000-06:00

Many moons ago I was pretty connected with a life coach by the name of Christie Crowder. She aided me in a better understanding of this whole social media/SEO thing. I'm still no expert but I hold me own, or I like to think so. Well life gets involved and I sort of lost touch with Ms. Christie until tonight. I was watching House and eating dinner with my darling 3 year old and bing my Skype chirps at me. It's Christie, she's written this beautiful blog post giving a shout out to me and how I have supported and helped her along her journey. Amazing how we can touch people's lives and not realize that we've done so...so stop by, check out her post and drop her a comment or two!
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Lately

2011-02-16T09:53:00.000-06:00

I haven't posted lately because, honestly I have been busy clearing so much trauma...like anxiety, anger, depression that 1) I didn't have time to post and 2) I have so much to tell you I didn't know where to start. To add to that I've been doing a lot of consulting with up and coming RRT therapists and bloggers. (Not that I am a social media/SEO expert) So I must say how appreciative I am of the guest posts and random quotes I've snagged from my peers!
I realized though that I need to back track and revisit part of my training. I am a ScreamFree Parent Leader. Have been for several years. Which means somewhere on that website I'm listed. Recently a couple contacted me because of that listing/training that I have. They drove 2 1/2 hours to come see me so that could seek a new path to better parenting. In Screamfree we learn that our own issues effect our parenting. Which lends it's self right into my love for RRT. Both came in eager for answers and solutions. It quickly became apparent where the problematic emotional stuff was getting in the way. And also how it was effecting their children, even to a very slight extent their marriage. So I did what I know I was born to do, I cleared up those problematic emotional things. Both were amazed and extremely grateful for the changes that happened and the new outlook on their family. I gave them further suggestions to help continue them on this amazing journey of positive parenting. I shook their hands, and as I shook Mom's hand she pulled me in and gave me this big, totally unexpected hug. She hugged me with her whole being full of gratitude, light, and joy. Even typing this brings me to tears. There are two children out there that are blessed with enlightened loving parents, and I got to be a part of that.
It has always been my desire to heal families. Until Screamfree Parenting & Rapid Resolution Therapy I didn't know where to begin let alone how to facilitate such dramatic changes in children and parents. So that's what I plan to keep on doing, healing families. And if eventually I can afford to get paid in big, amazing, joy filled hugs I will reach my wildest dreams. (Now I have to convince my mortgage company to accept hugs vs $$$)
Anxiety, depression, anger and other problematic emotions can create big problems in the person, and their family- why not let an RRT therapist clear those up so the whole family can come from a place of clarity, peace, and joy??
Be well, Be happy- Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

The power of RRT

2011-02-08T14:10:00.002-06:00

Snagged another one from Valerie Smith about why Rapid Resolution Therapy is so powerful:

The technique that I use works because I have learned how to adjust the mind directly. The mind is what controls actions, stores imprints, and brings forward thoughts. Knowing how to adjust the mind means that thinking can be shifted, behaviors changed and stuck imprints cleared. Its that simple... things that people thought that they were stuck with are released. Freedom is possible!

-Valerie Smith

freetobeALIVE@yahoo.com

Offices in Ft. Lauderdale & West Palm Beach

561-891-9322

FreeToBeAlivebyValerieSmith

Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Trauma is in the eye of the Survivor

2011-02-07T15:29:00.002-06:00

In my quest to get information out there about Rapid Resolution Therapy other RRT therapists are willing to support and help me out. This morning is no different. I woke up to an e-mail from Mark Chidley, LMHC, CAP who had written the following blog post over the weekend and offered it up to me to post on my blog. And of course I took him up on it!
Mark is located in Lee County, Florida and is doing some amazing work. So please enjoy his take on RRT and stop by his blog: MarkChidley.com

(Note: Please be advised some of the descriptions in this article
are graphic and may be of a disturbing nature to the reader. Also,
situations have been combined or altered, and names omitted, so
as to not identify any particular person. )

This piece reviews what many therapists already know. That is the
fact that traumatic experiences may not always involve the
imminent threat of death or dismemberment, nor even horror and
helplessness, in the sense of the classic definitions of PTSD.
Furthermore, such experiences may not be all that uncommon.
Many persons suffer special kinds of trauma arising from
childhood sexual abuse which disrupts development and leads to
what has been called complex posttraumatic stress disorder (Chu,
J.A. 1998. Rebuilding shattered lives: the responsible treatment
of complex posttraumatic and dissociative disorders. New York.
Wiley.) Others go through what has been termed DES, disorders
of extreme stress, which are characterized by being trapped in a
situation of chronic dysfunction where one’s own needs for safety
and security go unmet sometimes for years. Still others go
through what Susan Johnson and others are calling attachment
injuries (Johnson, S.M. et al. 2001. Attachment injuries in couples
relationships: a new perspective on impasse in couples therapy.
Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 23, 135-152.) where the
person suffers a sense of profound abandonment from an
attachment figure in a situation of urgent need.
The point being, trauma spreads out far beyond experiences of
overt physical threat, violence, or even emotional horror or
helplessness. What happened to the person may be more on the
level of identity and meaning than what happened physically.
Indeed, in many cases the person was never actually touched, and
yet for them their world shifted and neither their view of the
world or themselves would ever be the same again. This is
important because meanings affecting identity are often subtle
and nuanced, not always what they would seem on face value. The
temptation is always there to try to understand someone else in
terms of how one would feel in a similar situation instead of how
it was for them, thereby misreading the meaning and missing a
chance for connection. And in the minimizing narrative of an
adult survivor, the ongoing impact may be downplayed or
disguised. What he or she may not tell you is that they are still
having some of the sequela of trauma-- intrusive re-experiencing,
avoidance and numbing, hyperarousal--when coping with day to
day life. Below are a few representative examples of such trauma
arranged into categories I’ve noticed over time. There could
doubtless be other categories added to this list.

Experiences of Humiliation
Many of us have heard clients tell of a moment of vulnerability or
childhood incompetence and being humiliated in that moment .
Wetting one’s pants in school, being the butt of jokes on the
school bus, having a teacher single one out in a demeaning way, or
being suddenly in the wrong viz. a viz. adult systems, as in church.
One adult client remembered being suspended from an important
athletic competition because of a suspected rules infraction,
something due to an unfortunate oversight by his coach. He
remembered the devastating experience of having several
hundred people in a gymnasium whispering and pointing at him,
while all the action stopped and tournament officials tried to
figure out what to do. “It’s like they were calling me a cheater in
the sport I loved and in which I’d never done anything wrong.”

Experiences of Abandonment and Rejection
One lady remembered coming into her kitchen as a 9 year old. “I
came home from school one day with a problem with my
homework and told my step mom I needed her help. She was
already overwhelmed with the other kids and my alcoholic dad.
She just wheeled on me and said, ‘You need, you need, all’s you
ever do is need. Well, I cant take care of you right now. Why dont
you just leave me alone. Why don't you just disappear!’” It was a
phrase that had affected her for many years. Another client
remembers her alcoholic mom storming out of the bedroom with
her bags packed, declaring the client could fix the dinner because
she, the mom, was not going to do it anymore. Stunned, the girl
watched her mom go down the apartment stairs and jump into a
cab. She remembered seeing herself, as if from a distance,
climbing up to the top shelf for a box of stovetop macaroni, and at
the age of 7 reading the instructions and cooking dinner for
herself and her siblings. “That was the last time I ever saw my
mom,” she said some 33 years later.

Experiences of Covert Sexual Abuse
Perhaps more than any other writer, Pia Mellody (Facing
codependence, 1989.) has described the more subtle forms of
childhood sexual abuse and classified them. In covert as opposed
to overt abuse, the child does not have to be touched or physically
violated, but is exposed to or made the unwilling recipient of
someone else’s sexual activities. The term covert signals it is even
less likely to be identified or detected as abuse. An example of
covert explicit abuse is a client whose brother would come into the
bathroom repeatedly while she was in the tub as a little girl. He
would sneak into the bathroom, expose himself, and masturbate
while she sat frozen in the tub. In covert implicit abuse, children
are made parties to sexual activity indirectly, at an inappropriate
age and in an inappropriate way. A woman remembered painfully
how an adult neighbor would confide to her the particulars of his
sexual life, what he liked done and how he liked it done. A man
remembered his uncle taking him along on runs to whorehouses
in rural Oklahoma. The eight year old boy would sit in the kitchen
of a prostitute’s cabin, eating his peanut butter sandwich, while
his uncle and the woman’s moaning could be heard from behind
the closed bedroom door just a few feet away.

Experiences of Implied Violence
One doesn’t have to be hit or beat to be affected by violence. One
woman was selected to be the observer as her alcoholic father
would stage punching matches between her brothers. She was
forced to look on as one brother would beat down the other to
escape the greater threat of the father’s violence crashing down on
any unwilling contestants. She exclaimed, “It was like the Roman
Coliseum, and it took place on my living room rug every Friday
night!” Another woman remembered being left alone with her
disturbed cousins while they played a game of thrusting a butcher
knife blade under her bedroom door. They knew she often sat
behind her door crying, and that they could miss her by watching
her shadow under the door. Nevertheless, their willingness to
stalk and terrorize her by staging a show of implied violence had
left a deep mark.

Experiences of Demolished Values or Vulnerability
Many people have the innocence of their values or their childhood
sensitivities taken from them in a way that is traumatic. Having
lived near rural Midwestern farmlands, I remember more than
one client tell of witnessing an animal's untimely death or an
adult family member’s cruelty. Seeing a family pet run over in the
driveway, or seeing wildlife slaughtered out of a pickup truck
window, for no good reason other than the shooter wanted to kill
something, can have a profound effect on a child. And the effect
can be anchored at various levels--the abruptness and
unexpectedness of the act, the dying gasps of an animal as its eyes
glaze over, the stark brutality and indifference demonstrated by
an attachment figure, and the inference that small and defenseless
life forms are dispensable. Children are vulnerable and that
vulnerability can be demolished at any age. One woman told me of
the day her mother selected her, at 15, to be the caregiver for a
sick relative. Her life changed in a heartbeat, and there was
thereafter no room for a social life or education. She got to sit on
the sidelines and watch her sister have a normal adolescence and
go on to college. Now in her late 20‘s and finally rebuilding her
life, but struggling with depression, she recounted the sense of
betrayal and the shame of being the Cinderella figure, the one
whose capacities were deemed so unpromising that her future
could be easily sacrificed by her parent. It was a self-definition
that had been haunting her.
Trauma, for the survivor, is never spelled with a small “t”. But if
we are listening only for certain types of experiences or
experiences of a certain magnitude, like war, rape, or a plane
crash, we can miss what is real for the client. As a Rapid Trauma
Resolution therapist, I was also taught that part of what makes
trauma "hang" in a timeless limbo is the mind's tendency to make
matters worse by taking an already negative event and attaching
meanings of even greater negation or diminishment of personal
worth. All of this can still be driving symptoms, warping beliefs
about self and world, and troubling relationships. I am grateful for
clients who have taught me what it’s like to be suddenly without
connection when you need it most or suddenly exposed to the
pathology in another when you weren’t prepared for it. I feel it is
crucial to build a solid connection with clients early so that my
attention is easily drawn to what still has to be cleared for that
person to regain fullness of life and functioning. And so doing, I feel more satisfied in serving those whose trauma may have otherwise continued to affect them.

It's great to hear that I'm not the only one practicing Rapid Resolution Therapy that feels very satisfied with the job that I do!
Thanks Mark!!
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Addictive personalities

2011-02-04T10:39:00.000-06:00

Another great quote from Valerie Smith about addiction and how Rapid Resolution Therapy is a remarkable treatment for addictions:
There is a common misconception about people with "addictive personalities"; this term is thrown around to insinuate that there is something defective about a person. Many people have so-called "coping" behaviors that they would like to stop doing. Instead of labeling, my powerful technique stops the unwanted behavior and makes room for things people would be more into having in their lives. Its just that simple.

-Valerie Smith

freetobeALIVE@yahoo.com

Offices in Ft. Lauderdale & West Palm Beach

561-891-9322

FreeToBeAlivebyValerieSmith
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Energy to heal

2011-02-03T10:09:00.000-06:00

More from Rapid Resolution Therapist Valerie Smith:

Did you know that the mind is the very hub of your entire system? By freeing up trapped energy or thought patterns in the mind, the entire mind and body benefits.

-Valerie Smith

freetobeALIVE@yahoo.com

Offices in Ft. Lauderdale & West Palm Beach

561-891-9322

FreeToBeAlivebyValerieSmith

Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Languaging of Rapid Resolution Therapy

2011-02-02T10:06:00.000-06:00

As I said previously, my Rapid Resolution Therapy buddy- Valerie Smith, explains RRT very well...so here is some her words of wisdom:

For changes to be effective and permanent, one who is looking to effect change needs to know the language of the mind. Many people do not take into account the fact that subconscious mind hears things on a deeper level than conscious mind and is more sensitive to language used.

-Valerie Smith

freetobeALIVE@yahoo.com

Offices in Ft. Lauderdale & West Palm Beach

561-891-9322

FreeToBeAlivebyValerieSmith

Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Body-Mind Healing

2011-02-01T09:47:00.006-06:00

Remember my Rapid Resolution Therapy posts about "It's a flipping revolution? Well those were sparked by Valerie Smith, who was nice enough to guest blog for me today. I also plan on posting some of her little snippets of RRT wisdom that she posts on Facebook. I shall post those throughout this week. Please enjoy, comment if you want, and drop by Facebook and have a chat with her! Or better yet if your in the Ft. Lauderdale or West Palm Beach areas make an appointment and be a part of this revolution!

First of all, I’d like to thank Tara for asking me to guest write on her blog. She has been an incredible supporter and I have gotten so much from her light-hearted wisdom and encouragement.

Body-Mind Healing…..

What many people do not stop to think about is how the mind is tied into absolutely EVERY single system in the body. People may make casual references to hypochondriacs or “it’s all in her head” or “you will make yourself sick” but even they may not realize just what a large part the mind plays in wellness.

It is not that illnesses are “in one’s head”, just that the mind has an effect on each and every system of the body. It tells the body what to do, when to breathe, when to attack, when to protect.

Pain, for example, is a very effective warning system, a klaxon bell, if you will. It is the subconscious’s way of letting conscious mind know what part of the body needs a little extra attention or protection. The subconscious mind repeats this message until it gets that it has been heard and understood. Once the order has been followed and appropriate action is taken, there is no longer need for the klaxon bell to sound.

The mind is also very responsive to the messages it receives. If it is told that it will get sick because the person did not wash their hands enough and someone coughed on them, the mind obeys that order.

Manifestation is not necessarily about some “putting it out in the universe” kind of principle. On a much simpler level, what the mind is told in the right way, it acts in accordance with. Our subconscious minds are very responsive to directions so it is valuable to make sure that the right directions get in. Growing up, many people got faulty directions for their mind that will affect their health until those messages get shifted.

It is a bit like a dog: you can train a dog to be obedient by doing really cute things like rolling over and playing dead or you can train a dog to be obedient by doing guard dog things like barking and attacking. The mind will follow instructions; however, the mind is never too old of a dog because it CAN learn new tricks!

The way that I talk to the mind in regards to health, wellness, and stress and the way that RRT practitioners talk to the mind takes into account the complexities of language needed for good directions to be absorbed and permanently effective. We are like chefs who have studied and studied recipes and understand that the words (our ingredients) have to be carefully selected and prepared for the dish to come out in the way that we intend.

So while wellness is not “all in one’s head”, the mind is the director of the show and shifting more toward wellness and health starts with the mind. Finding someone who knows the language of the director can shift the entire body toward wellness by freeing and clearing stuck energies so that that energy can go back to doing its job of healing, maintenance and repair on the body. It is just that simple. Get to the director of the process and the entire system will be affected! Happy Healing!

-Valerie Smith

freetobeALIVE@yahoo.com

Offices in Ft. Lauderdale & West Palm Beach

561-891-9322

FreeToBeAlivebyValerieSmith

Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Rapid Resolution Therapy Level I Training

2011-01-31T16:21:00.001-06:00

At a discount...What could be better??
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

What is Rapid Resolution Therapy

2011-01-26T10:48:00.001-06:00

A Positive Solution...
for Life's Tough Problems

* Anxiety
* Depression
* Panic Attacks
* Sexual Issues
* Rage
* Resentment
* Insomnia
* Grief
* Jealousy
* Compulsions/Obsessions
* Social Anxiety
* Phobias-Fears
* Negative Habits
* Addiction/Dependency
* Low Self Esteem
* Post-Traumatic Stress
* Self-Destructive Behavior
* Guilt/Shame

ARE YOU STUCK?
If you have been stuck and unable to successfully change your feelings, thoughts or behaviors it is likely that you are being affected by experiences from your past. Any experience that continues to exert a negative influence is traumatic. Not all traumatic events are horrifying or tragic. Sometimes traumatic experiences are remembered, but often they are repressed or forgotten.

GHOSTS FROM THE PAST
When fueled by the ongoing influence of traumatic past events, emotional problems, destructive behaviors and relationship difficulties are impossible to overcome. Attempting to bring about enduring change without eliminating these “ghosts from the past” is like trying to repair the structure of a building by applying a coat of paint.

TRAUMA
When something is traumatic it slams into awareness and leaves a lasting impression. Even when the experience is finished deeper parts of the mind may continue to respond as if it is still occurring. It is as if this deeper part of the mind has not gotten the good news, the news that the painful experience is finished. Even experiences that have been repressed or consciously forgotten can continue to exert a negative influence. This may affect emotions, thinking, relationships, behavior and even health.

HOW IT WORKS
Past events exerting a negative effect can range from experiences as “normal” as a sharp word from a teacher or parent to those as terrible as rape, torture and war. Dr. Connelly’s Rapid Resolution Therapy eliminates the negative emotional or behavioral influence of traumatic events, whether these experiences are remembered, repressed or forgotten. It is not necessary to relive past events or experience any pain. The mind is cleared, organized and optimized. There are dramatic improvements in thoughts, feelings and behavior. Unconscious conflicts blocking desired change are pinpointed and resolved. As the root cause of problems is cleared, positive change endures.

Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

PTSD treatment alternatives

2011-01-24T09:04:00.005-06:00

Woke up this morning to an e-mail from my Rapid Resolution Therapy buddy Courtney Armstrong about using Mixed Martial Arts and Personal Safety classes to treat PTSD.
There's usually more than one way to fix a problem. I read the article and reviewed the video. I can definitely see how this can be helpful. I am glad to hear that they do acknowledge that such classes can "trigger" some uncomfortable emotions. What I hope is that the person leading the class has experience and knowledge on how to help that person manage those emotions that come up! I say this because I have taken an MMA class and a personal safety class. I have not been in any type of war or combat, in fact I have not been attacked, yet when my teacher, whom I trusted, put me in a choke hold with a fake knife I freaked!!! I froze and I panicked! As much respect as I have for that teacher he did not handle it very well and just kept me in that hold barking orders at me and the other students. Talk about a traumatizing experience within a supposedly safe environment!
But this isn't all about me...My point being I have no doubt that someone with trauma from combat can certainly be "triggered" and I want any PTSD treatment for them to be safe and productive. I agree with Courtney that Rapid Resolution Therapy could easily clear the emotional trauma for them so that they will not be "triggered" in such a way.
Things to think about, ponder, and consider...
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Pay it forward

2011-01-21T15:47:00.003-06:00

This has been a challenging week for me. Sick cat, cat then had a bad reaction to medication, 3 year old who suddenly thinks that playtime s from 2-5am, my physical health is a bit on the under the weather side, and a flat tire today. Add in in the past week I've had 4 possible clients, not one has committed to a first session. And really that breaks my heart when I know that what has been problematic for them I can clear up but somehow, for some reason their not coming in. There are Moms out there that can exist on little to no sleep like it's nothing, I am not that Mom.
So let's fast forward to today and that darn flat tire. I had hoped to make it to the tire shop, didn't happen, went totally flat and came off the rim. It was very cold and of course I had my daughter with me in the car. Long story short my parents came to give us a warm place to sit while the tow truck guy changed the flat. (Yes I know how but I am SLOW at it, in fact I can change brakes pads and tune up my car!) Well one stinking lug nut wouldn't come off and in fact was stripped in the process. Thus my Jeep had to be towed to the tire shop. While we waited for the two truck hooked up my car this random stranger drove by and asked if that was my Jeep. I'm thinking yes, you want me to pay you $5 and it's yours! He says to me, stay there I live right there and I have something for your car...Comes back tells me a short little personal history he has with Jeeps and hands me a brand new automatic remote car starter for my Jeep. I, of course, offer to pay him for it and he refuses. Told me he felt he eventually would be able to give it to someone who deserved it and that it should cost like $100 to get it installed. I was in SHOCK! He was kind enough to give me his business cards, and I was still in shock and didn't give him mine.
Thus Mr. Victor Koch THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH! That made my week! It was all I could do to not jump out of my parents car and hug him till his eyes popped out!
So take some time and check out his website:
StLPrinting.com

Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

The RRT truth

2011-01-17T17:49:00.003-06:00

Martin Luther King, Jr had a dream of a better world. Today I was able to have a transformational conversation with the mother of a potential client, and help her understand that through Rapid Resolution Therapy things can and will be dramatically different for her child or even herself. In other forms of counseling there is this idea that once someone experiences something traumatic it will always haunt them, change them, and be with them forever. As a Certified RRT therapist that idea really makes me sick to my stomach. Shoot with that attitude what's the point of going to counseling and spending your money?
Here I stand (OK type in reality) to tell you, my reading audience, that that attitude in fact is WRONG! Through RRT the client will no longer be burdened with the emotional trauma created by the traumatic event. They will still know it happened, however once the emotions connected to that trauma are cleared it's just like boring computer data. That emotional trigger button is permanently turn off and totally disabled. How radically different is that?
There are other options out there for emotional healing, just take some time and check out what Rapid Resolution Therapy offers!

Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC
PS- check out the new RRT links I set up for...I'm not the only RRT therapist in the USA!

It's a flipping revolution part 2

2011-01-12T09:13:00.005-06:00

As I mentioned in my last post, Rapid Resolution Therapy training has rocked my world, professionally and personally. Likely, I have posted about the RRT view point of the human brain, I'm gonna speak to that effect again. It's really, for me, the underlining reason, that RRT is a flipping revolution. Those who have taken therapy classes via accredited online colleges may know what I'm talking about.
In my last post I noted how my education and my experience had left me with the theory that clients were broken, and choose to stay stuck in a bad situation. It was the "client's responsibility" to get better. I could help them bu giving support, encouragement, and empathy. But in the end they had to do the hard work, dig deep, and get to the "root of the problem" all on their own while I sat back passively and supported them.
Well I know differently now. Yes clients are amazingly smart, and have everything they need inside of them fr life to be joyful and clear. Who they are, their essence, is light, peace, and energy. What the real problem is, is that their mind has been working in a problematic way. And it's my responsibility to get that cleared, fixed, changed, updated, tweeked, what ever you want to call it. Yes you heard me right, it's MY responsibility. When you go to the mechanic's to get your car tuned up or repaired do you expect them to stand by and support you while you take their tools and try to fix your engine? Heck NO! They have the training and experience to fix your car right, that's why you pay them. Right? That's what all my training in RRT has given me, the knowledge, experience, expertise, and determination to eliminate the problematic way a client's mind has been working.
Think of this, a hammer is a pretty simple tool. Pretty difficult to break or damage. However if it does break most likely you're going to have to just buy a new and start over. A computer, on the other hand, is complex and prone to glitches and problems. In fact you receive patches for software problems regularly and you hit the button and the computer updates that software. The human brain is MORE complex than a computer and thus is prone to glitches. Like software glitches. It needs tuning up just like a car does. Now drop that computer, or have some virus invade it and then you've experienced a really traumatic event for a computer. Now you really need a computer expert to clean up the hard drive and clear out the virus. Drive a car and get into an automobile expert and now you need not only a mechanic but a body shop too. That's like a really traumatic event for a car. Well people experience trauma too. Little traumas and big traumas. So like your computer and car you need a specialist/expert to tune things up and clear them out. Guess what? That's my job, my professional life's purpose. I love getting that stuff done for people.
I used to just sit back and let the client guide sessions, let them "make choices," or even sometimes refer them out because "their problem" was too big for me. Not Any More! I know there are times, and I have experienced this recently, that I need someone more experienced in RRT to help me clear something for a client.
Bottom line the human brain is prone to glitches and with Rapid Resolution Therapy those glitches can be repaired and the person can then face life with amazing clarity!
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

It's a flipping revolution

2011-01-10T07:00:00.004-06:00

I'm back from another Rapid Resolution Therapy training. One of the things I noticed while there was this question from other therapists: "How often do you use this in your practice?" I'm asked this question in a multitude of ways reasonably often. Especially from other mental health professionals. I'm also asked to just tell people what it is so they can decide if it would be helpful to their practice/job. Well I heard an amazing woman say, at this training, "It's not a flipping modality, It's a flipping revolution." (yes this has been censored for your reading pleasure!) This young woman, Valerie Smith, is doing her thing to become a Licensed therapist and has been fortunate enough to find Rapid Resolution Therapy BEFORE she got to graduate school.
Now I'm sure you ask why did I say she was fortunate to get this before graduate school? Here's the thing, when you're in graduate school they pound into your brain this paradigm, or framework, for what counseling is and what it is like for someone who has mental instability. Let me pair it down even further- the people (the clients) you will see (the therapist) are messed up and broken. You can't fix them, but you can show them empathy and caring and that will ease the pain. That's what everyone gets to learn in graduate school. Well no wonder so many people are wary of coming to see a counselor. Who wants to be left feeling like their broken and un-fixable? So for those of us who have gone through graduate school and worked out in this field we have a pretty heavy framework or, paradigm, about counseling. When you begin to learn Rapid Resolution Therapy Dr. Connelly will tell you to forget all your other training and just think about the world, clients, people, the human brain, the way he's going to explain it. And it's different and unusual from what you currently think you know is the truth about the world.
What begins to happen, the more you train with Dr. Connelly is that your framework is totally busted and burned in some metaphorical fire-pit and a whole new one is constructed. This framework begins to encompass your entire life. Not just how you view your clients, but how you view others in your world and the human world at large. Suddenly you see and know how with Rapid Resolution Therapy you can dramatically impact people because you can fix what has been stuck for them. (Read carefully: before it was you can't fix what was broke NOW you can fix what was stuck) Man how powerful is that? Not just for a therapist but for the client to come see a mental health professional who can fix the small little problematic way that their mind has been working. It's just like a computer glitch, it's fixable. That's why every counselor and social worker got into this field, to make things better! If you have the ability to fix things of course things get better.
So yeah- "It's not a flipping modality, It's a flipping revolution." The majority of treatment in mental health/substance abuse does a lot to secretly enable people to stay stuck. I know social workers doing Rapid Resolution Therapy in ER settings loosing their jobs because a person came in suicidal/depressed, they spent 15 minutes clearing the trauma that caused the emotional reaction and sent the patient home only to find the ER Doc was mad because they lost a patient that could have been hospitalized? How ef'ed up is that? They went home healthy, but it would have been better to keep them stuck in that trauma so the hospital could fill a bed???
And to answer the question how often do I use RRT? All the time, everyday, everywhere. With every client that comes through my counseling door, my daughter, my husband, my friends...the list goes on and on. It's not modality, it's a way of life.
On a side note I'm so excited and grateful to have met Valerie Smith at this training. I have no doubt she's going to be a force to reckon with and I plan to watch her revolutionize the mental health field, and I'm darn sure going to help her do it!
Ok- now to take a deep breath...my next Rapid Resolution Therapy post is going to help you understand how this becomes the framework for everything in life...

Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC
PS I have revised this post to give credit where credit is due, Dr. Jason Quintal is the genius who helped me see how RRT is a new paradigm/framework...He also was sweet enough to pop on a comment on this post!! Thanks Jason, I am honored!

Work your magic

2011-01-04T17:11:00.002-06:00

Monday morning bright and early I got a message from a previous client requesting a follow up. I know doing the Rapid Resolution Therapy work that I do that clients are having amazing results, I do really like to follow up with them just to see how they are doing. When I contacted the client he requested to see me face to face (some follow up I do over the phone)so, as he said, "You can do your magic." I wasn't sure what I was going to have to "magically" clean up or clarify for him, I Knew I was up to the task though.
Well much to my surprise and amazement this client was in such a healthy place emotionally and physically. He was facing problems head on with clarity and confidence. He had lost 20lbs. He even told me that people had told him he seemed so different, bubbly and energetic. Then he said he really just came in to bounce a few concerns off of me and to let me see for myself how wonderful things were for him. Seriously in every aspect of his life, personal, his kids, his job was going great, and even his friendships were great. It's just really nice to see that the work I'm doing with Rapid Resolution Therapy is having such a profound effect, in the positive, for my clients!
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

2011 resolutions

2010-12-29T10:10:00.003-06:00

I've been thinking a lot about resolutions as the end of 2010 approaches. My biggest resolution is to see 6-9 clients per week this coming year. My goal for the outcome of those sessions is that I give the client a new state of emotional wellness to guide them throughout 2011.
I hear over and over how people make resolutions to lose weight, stop smoking, get organized, etc etc. I wonder how often people are aware of the emotional garbage behind those goals? That's the meat of my work that I love so much. Cleaning up and clearing up the emotional baggage that hinders those goals. So here I am, ready and willing to get that done for people. If you or anyone you know is ready and willing to let that be done send them my way!!
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Adjust the rear view mirror

2010-12-14T14:40:00.005-06:00

When I put my Rapid Resolution Therapy hat on one of the things I do a adjust a person's internal rear view mirror. Doesn't make sense? Let me tell you a story about myself...
Recently I have asked a few people for some assistance, people that I have helped in the past and they have lavished the praise for the help I have given them. So I asked with the idea they would be more than willing to do the same. The favor I asked I thought wasn't real big or even time consuming. The responses I have received have made me scratch my head. One person gave me the help I requested but seasoned it with an undercurrent of criticism about how I hadn't helped everything in their life. Another offered the help but with some caveats about the help that they would provide. After the second response my mind became very angry and hurt. I happened to read the last response right before my daughter takes a nap. (And I usually take one too.) I laid down and acknowledged that my mind was really trying to get me to go down a road I felt wasn't healthy for me. When I awoke my mind started in again, analyzing it, tacking on meanings to what had been said, creating this negative internal dialogue. And then it dawned on me. My rear view mirror was facing the wrong way. It was facing me and not out. Still doesn't make sense?
There was a day that I was driving, with a friend, and we were sitting in traffic. Next to us was this guy looking in his rear view mirror, talking to himself. By his behavior you could tell he was really critiquing himself. Actually, he had these really really big lips and I think he was criticizing his lips. My friend, who is a counselor also, said boy I hope someday he learns to love himself and his lips. I said, I don't I hope he stops looking in that mirror and starts looking out there, at the traffic!
Yes, very recently I found myself looking in that mirror and criticizing myself. Once the mirror was adjusted I can see what's going on for others. When that rear view mirror gets adjusted correctly life is so much easier. That negative internal dialog goes away, fast. The negative emotions dissolve and life problems seem so simple. We don't call it Rapid Resolution Therapy for nothing...
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Need a repair person

2010-12-09T18:42:00.003-06:00

Last night I received a message from a recent Rapid Resolution Therapy client. She recently had experienced a trauma, in fact the day before, and begged to see me ASAP. And I was more than willing to make that happen for her.
Basically she came in and had had to put her dog down. She was flooded with emotions which opened up another unresolved trauma. She looked at me and said "I can't continue to feel like this, it's effecting every aspect of my life, and I know you can fix this." Well talk about a motivator for me to make things right for her! It took some muddeling and fuddeling but I did it. She walked out of my office glowing!
I left with this image that I am the Maytag Repairman but I repair/tune up the human brain. Maybe I need like my own blur repair guy shirt and pants?
Here's the bottom line of this, things in life are traumatizing. You don't have to suffer from those emotions that arise after a trauma for long periods of time. She put her dog down Tuesday, as I write this it is two days later and she's emotionally doing great and will continue to be so!
With Rapid Resolution Therapy recovery is quick, just come on in and see for yourself!
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Wham! - Last Christmas

2010-12-09T09:56:00.000-06:00

Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Gregg Braden on Curing Cancer using our own Technology of Emotion

2010-12-08T13:42:00.000-06:00

Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Professional gratitude

2010-12-07T13:18:00.003-06:00

Have I mentioned lately how much I love being a Rapid Resolution therapist? Well today was a huge reminder why I love the work I do. As I have mentioned before, I'm being pro-active and following up with current and past RRT clients. One past client in particular has become a current client again. He's needed some tuning up, so to speak, and had some past traumas reappear that we never cleared up before. So Monday I received a call from him asking if there was a time I could just touch base with him via the phone. (He lives over an hour from my office.) So today I called him, as we agreed. He basically wanted to tell me that he's a tad mad at me because, as he put it, "What ever it is that you are doing it is working. I'm calm, grounded, and things are going really good. I feel strong, stronger than I ever have before, and very empowered."
The long and the short of it he has recently found himself in a situation that could dramatically, and catastrophically effect him professionally and personally. In the process of clearing up all the emotional (current and past emotions) junk connected to this I was very open and honest about the fact this potential "bomb" needed to be addressed and handled. We reviewed possible ways for him to take care of this, and low and behold just days after seeing me another possible solution arose and he embraced it, faced it, and handled it with flying colors. All the while thinking "Holy crap what Tara does really works!" Out of respect for confidentiality I will not go into details, however this client's life is changing in so many amazing ways because of his new clarity on life. It's a rare thing to have a client express gratitude for the work one does in the counseling field. It is such an honor to be able to touch these people's lives and be such an instrument of change for them. I am immensely grateful for the knowledge and skills Dr. Jon Connelly has taught me with Rapid Resolution Therapy! I only hope that I am given more opportunities to help more people!
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

All that guilt

2010-12-06T20:03:00.004-06:00

Do you know where they keep the guilty buffalos? No where! There are NO guilty buffalos. Yes, we humans, are the only animals that feel guilt...OK honestly we live in guilt. Guess what?! Guilt is a totally less than useless emotion. Don't believe me? How guilty would you want a surgeon to be who about to do surgery on a loved one? But wait you didn't ask what the surgeon did. Alright how guilty do you want your hairstylist to be when she's cutting your hair? Or how would you like to get a massage from someone who's atoning for something they did? I have no desire to have a guilty surgeon, hairstylist or have a massage therapist, working on atonement, try to get the kinks out of my back. Guilt hinders people in so many ways. So many people carry around so much guilt. Guilt was designed to make people behave better in a time that no longer exists.
How often have you experienced or seen someone parenting through guilt? How often have you experienced teachers teaching through guilt. I can not even count the amount of times a client has come in about say depression or anger and what's really deep down in there is guilt. Guilt that was started from a very early age. And that guilt just builds and deepens. We guilt ourselves about things that have happened. In fact recently I had breakfast with a friend who was telling me about all this guilt she was experiencing in regards to a normal human experience. She was opening up and apologizing to several people, for her normalcy, and telling them how guilty and sorry she was, for being human. And some of them in turn were giving her more reasons to feel guilty. I asked her, as she protested "Please don't do your counselor thing on me," Where do we keep the guilty buffalos? It was truly difficult for me to watch my dear friend feel so terribly guilty for being a normal human. She hadn't harmed anyone or anything. She just had a feeling that she believes is not acceptable and thus there was that guilt.
Here's another reason I love doing Rapid Resolution Therapy, I clean up guilt, for clients, in a matter of minutes. It's an emotion that is not helpful. So why keep it? Funny thing is some people think they deserve to feel this way. Heaven help me if I have to have surgery done by a surgeon who's feeling guilty!!!
Guilt naws away at people even when their not trying to think about it. It works on you while your sleeping, working, playing, eating, and breathing. Without it though there's a clarity and understanding, shall I say enlightenment, that gives you the freedom to live a healthier more joyful life. Wouldn't the holiday season be brighter with more Joy?
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

And a side of grief

2010-11-24T06:36:00.003-06:00

Grief is one emotional issue that is quickly and effectively resolved with Rapid Resolution Therapy. However grief is a major problem most days and it festers and boils a lot more during the holidays.
Grief, in reality, is an emotion that is worse than useless. It is an emotion that greatly influences stuckness in so many people. Grief is created due to a perception of loss. When we look at it through a different lens we can not loose what we have already gained, such as experiences with those that we love, and we can not loose what we never gained. (I know this is a very different and unusual way to look at this topic.)
Honestly the topic of grief is a long and in depth one. Fortunately one doesn't have to live with grief forever, or even for years. It is possible and definitely beneficial for grief to be cleaned up and cleared up for good. I have been very excited to be able to make this happen for several of my clients.
If grief is holding you back this holiday season, or any other time, know that Rapid Resolution Therapy can and will alleviate that problem for you!
Happy Thanksgiving to you and your loved ones!

Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Clients follow up

2010-11-22T15:46:00.003-06:00

I've recently had an influx on referrals from previous Rapid Resolution Therapy clients. Which is GREAT! In fact this past Friday I had a call from a sister of a previous client. When we were able to able to actually talk she asked to be seen that very day. It was wonderful that I was able to make that happen for her.
Did my thing, she was doing so much better than when she came in. My plan was to follow up with her this week to see how she was coming along. She contacted me today. Just a mere 3 days after her initial appointment. She told me that she was doing very well, has a few more things she would like for me to clear up for her, and that she wished she had come to see me years ago.
What a great scenario, word of mouth referral, successful session, and a request to come see me again! Have I mentioned lately how grateful I am that I stumbled upon Rapid Resolution Therapy?
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Complicated human mind

2010-11-19T07:42:00.004-06:00

In Rapid Resolution Therapy we have a great respect for the complicated human mind. In fact did you ever think that with the human mind being so complicated, thus prone to glitches similar to a computer, it makes it easier for those trained properly to fix those glitches? I like to think of myself as a computer repair woman who works on the human mind.
When something is complicated, say like a car, it is prone to everyday glitches so when you buy a new car you are told to come back in 6 months to get a "tune up." What also can happen is you may have a car accident, something slams into your car, and in an instant you need your car repaired. Aside from everyday glitches the human mind can also have something slam into it- trauma. There's what I call Big T trauma like gang rape. But there's also Little T trauma like a teacher telling a student to spit their gum out. Now in reading this that doesn't seem like a trauma, but to some child that might be humiliating and shame-filled thus causing on going difficulties that effect him through out his life. So both types of trauma leave an impression on the mind.
Part of my job as an RRT therapist is to clear up that impression and create, what computer guys may call for computer glitches, patches so that the mind is optimized and seeking what is possible and beneficial for that person. It's an amazing thing to watch someone go from being stuck due to some trauma to then be able to see that from a whole new perspective and be able to have clarity on their current situations. It's wonderful to hear from my clients how differently they approach challenges in their life. In fact recently a client told me that a challenge came up in work and she was able to have some space between what she felt and how she decided to respond. Enough space she was able to see how she used to react and make a very clear decision on how to respond in that moment.
Rapid Resolution Therapy is an effective treatment for many emotional concerns: anxiety, depression, anger, guilt, grief, abuse, the list goes on and on...I'm excited to help everyone I can!
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Openings

2010-11-08T07:13:00.003-06:00

I currently have Rapid Resolution Therapy sessions available Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday mornings from 9am till 12pm.
If you or someone you love is having a difficult time with:
Trauma
Violent crimes
Sexual abuse/violence
Fears/anxieties
Depression
Grief/loss
Guilt/Shame
Coping with an illness
Relationships
RRT can help with any of these troubling effects. Such unresolved past events act as roadblocks to desired change and increase vulnerability to medical and emotional problems. RRT addresses these unresolved "ghosts of the past" by shifting the awareness from self blame therefore allowing one to fully experience the present with clarity and confidence.
If weekly sessions are difficult to fit into your schedule I do offer block sessions of 2 or more hours. I also offer discounts for students and sliding scale fees. And I am able to accept most major credit cards.
Maybe a little Rapid Resolution Therapy will create a new you!

Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

I'm honored

2010-10-12T15:30:00.000-05:00

I had mentioned in a post previously I have been calling past Rapid Resolution Therapy clients to just check in. Most have been doing well. In fact two said they were Grrrreat. And then a week later one of those two called and asked if he could schedule an appointment to come in. He lives in a very small town in a small county and has a job that puts him in the public eye. He's in a position where going to others about his personal problems is not really the greatest idea. As he put it, he just needed to check in with someone about some personal things.
Our session was just under 2 hours. Most of the first hour was about all these amazing things that have been going on for him. He's had a few bumps in the road, but dealt with them with complete clarity. In fact when he got into the bumps that were more than bumps for him it was, for me the counseling professional, really minor things. Especially in comparison to the very large emotional issues we had tackled previously. So I did my thing and cleared up the two points where he was stuck emotionally and sent him on his way.
Now you ask why the title of I'm honored? For one I'm honored to be the person he wants to come to talk about all the amazing things that have happened to him since his emotional slate has been cleared. And two I'm honored that he trusts the work I do with Rapid Resolution Therapy enough to come back when he's hit a bump in the road he needs help with.

Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Lost in Translation

2010-10-11T10:40:00.001-05:00

I was recently sitting at home doing some home study in Rapid Resolution Therapy, and was so glad to hear Dr. Jon Connelly, LCSW, Ph.D speak on the difficulties of explaining what RRT is. A client had noted he would not be able to verbalize what he had experienced. He knew it worked but could not find the words to describe it. And I just smiled when Jon stated that yes the method he uses is very difficult to describe to others and even when you try it gets lost in translation.
Why did this make me smile? Because I struggle almost daily to explain what it is I do in my private practice. As well as what I experienced having been treated by Jon. In fact, somewhat recently, I was having lunch with a friend who is skeptical of the work I am doing so she asked for an explanation of RRT. And of course I struggled and stumbled trying to summarize it and put it into words. Which did not seem to go over well with my friend, who also is in the mental health field. I then tried to explain to her the lasting effects I and my clients have had, still didn't seem to give her what she was looking for. In fact this particular part of the conversation ended soon there after. I left feeling very frustrated with myself for not being able to give her the information she wanted.
Now I know though. Rapid Resolution Therapy tends to go beyond words and gets lost in translation, it's not just me!
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

My EMDR friend

2010-10-08T07:00:00.003-05:00

So as a Certified Rapid Resolution Therapist in Missouri I have few cohorts to consult with who also do RRT. In fact here's only 2 Certified RRT therapists in Missouri at this time and the other person lives 4 hours away from me. Now I do have many other friends who are counselors or social workers. We do utilize each other as professional sounding boards. OK honestly I don't sound off with my friends because how we go about the work we do is very different. However my friends do utilize me as a sounding board. (In fact recently two friends just told me I should charge for such services...that's a thought!)
Anyways...This week a friend called needed a professional second opinion, and I'm well known for being opinionated. I listened, I gave feedback. Professional issues resolved. She then asked if I could help her with her husband. I laughed and asked what in particular was she talking about. (Now this friend in a Certified Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapist. She has told me one can do EMDR to themselves, yet she has rarely mentioned doing EMDR to herself.) She tells me what's bothering her, and being the RRT therapist I am I come from a diferent school of thought on what is driving her husband's emotions and behaviors. This lead into a conversation about her father, again I came from the RRT side of my brain and explained his behaviors and reactions. Which lead to her reporting new insight into those men in her life and telling me, "Ya know your really smart!" I chuckled. Mostly because I find it interesting that an EMDR therapist (EMDR gets more respect in the counseling world right now than RRT does) seeks out counseling from an RRT therapist.
Would I be too bold to say Rapid Resolution Therapy is trumping EMDR??
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Choices?

2010-10-07T13:14:00.003-05:00

We live in a condo/townhouse community. With any community there's always the neighborhood gossip who knows everything about everyone, and tends to see the world through negatively tinted glasses. For us she lives directly behind our townhouse. And we see her very regularly because she has a dog to walk and our animal loving daughter likes to say hello to every passing dog.
So this week my daughter and I were outside enjoying those last few beautiful days before the dreary fall weather kicks in and sure enough Gossip neighbor came a walking with her dog. She happens to work in the medical field as a phlebotomist; which makes her a true expert in the mental health and substance abuse field. (sarcasim totally meant to be inserted there) Many times we compare how busy our respective employers (hospitals) are. That day was no different. She then noted how they have had a recent increase in heroine over doses, I too noted I had heard that to be so where I was employed.
She then proceeded into a rant about how substance abuse/addiction is not a disease it is a choice and if "those people" would just make the right choices they wouldn't have those problems and she wouldn't have to deal with "them."
To be very honest with you when I got into this field I was not very understanding of the disease that is addiction. I really thought if people only had enough will power and would step up and make the right choice that they could easily be healthy. I have learned a lot from the clients I have been honored to work with. I have also learned a lot from the many great counselors I know who specialize in addiction. And along the way I have a great bunch of friends who are sober and have been in recovery for decades that have also taught me so very much. Now add in my current and continued training in Rapid Resolution Therapy and I see addiction very differently than several years ago, and way differently than Gossipy Neighbor.
What I now know is when someone has emotional traumas that are still active in their life they do not have the emotional clarity necessary to make clear choices. With addictions not only does the emotional traumas need to be cleaned up, but the cravings need to be managed as well. With RRT those cravings are best managed when they are paired with the instant knowledge of what will happen if that person uses/abuses again.
I realize my new found beliefs in addiction do not match what many people think or believe. It does give me the clarity and understanding I need to be a much more effective counselor when working with those dealing with addictions. And really that's what's important to me, to be the best counselor I can be so I can help as many people as I can.
However I'm not so sure I have the ability to help Gossipy Neighbor.... :)
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

More follow ups

2010-10-05T11:29:00.003-05:00

In my process of following up with clients one particular client returned to counseling, preferring the Rapid Resolution Therapy technique. She came in a few months ago and then returned one month later. Admitted after her second appointment that she had not been fully honest with me and thus was struggling with a strong bout of depression. She had called me after her second return session and I, honestly, highly recommended she seek medications. And we agreed to touch base soon.
Well today was the day, since I had not heard from her I called. To be truthful, I have been worried about her and frustrated that the work I have been doing for her seems to have not been effective. Can I say how surprised I was?! She decided against prescription medications and investigated further into natural treatment. It has been about 3 weeks since our last session/telephone call. She is doing AMAZING!! One of her biggest triggers is problems at work, she has faced several big problems with clarity and calmness. And what's great is she's doing it with the aid of natural remedies and according to her Rapid Resolution Therapy.
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

My intentions

2010-10-01T07:45:00.000-05:00

As the day approaches that my daughter will begin pre-school my intentions/wishes/desires for my private practice is that each day, while Ella is in pre-school I shall see 1-3 clients in my private practice.
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Follow ups

2010-09-23T06:53:00.003-05:00

Recently I had begun thinking about past clients that I have utilized Rapid Resolution Therapy with, how they left feeling much better, and wondering what they were up to now. Prior to my training in RRT it was my belief that I could be supportive to a client, and offer suggestions to how to cope differently with any problems they may have, and help them become more introspective and aware of their unhealthy coping skills and healthy coping skills. With RRT it is the therapist's responsibility to clear p and clean up any emotional trauma the client has. So in the past it was the client's responsibility to get better, now it's mine. Therefore I did little to no follow up previously, now I really want to know how my clients are doing. One because it's nice to know that I have been helpful to them and two because if I wasn't as helpful as I had hoped I need to fix that.
Now bare in mind I haven't had a lot of clients since becoming certified in RRT. What was great though was how well the majority of my clients are doing. Most are doing fabulously. One is still experiencing some issues relating to a relationship, but she stated she would come back when she's ready too. And my last client has been coming in fairly regularly, she admitted to me recently she hasn't been honest with what has been traumatizing her in life.
So I didn't have a 100% record but I am so impressed by all of my clients and where their at today! What I have learned is even with Rapid Resolution Therapy some things stay the same with any type of counseling; you have to want to be in counseling and you have to be honest about what's going on for you.
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

3 words

2010-08-20T21:43:00.003-05:00

While watching the movie, Eat, Pray, Love three words came to mind, in regards to myself: Married Midwest Mother. That's me. And I love my life. I have a husband who I would describe as my platform. Eric is a really really great guy. Seriously. Being a Facebook junkie I see so many people post about their great hubbies. Some of them I see regularly in person and in reality they complain about their hubbies. I don't have a lot to complain about with Eric. No he's NOT perfect. OK he is WAY more social than I am which means I go to dinner parties that really I don't want to go to. Most of the time I have a good time though. Eric doesn't complete me, it's not that cheesy kind of romance, he gives me lots of room to be myself and holds me accountable to remain grounded and sound. He tries to create the financial stability for me to stay at home with our daughter and continue to pursue my professional dream of being self employed. I like introducing my hubby to everyone I know, he has this essence about him that just draws most people to him. It has been pointed out to me, like I didn't know, that he's a flirt. Yep he flirt with every female we cross paths with. The amazing thing is, he still flirts with me!

I was born in Missouri. I am living here still. I did live in London, England for a very short time, and in Atlanta, Georgia fora slightly longer time. I have traveled from Hawaii to Muscat, Oman. Beaches leave me breathless. I want to retire close to one, like some crazy amazing place like Tahiti. However right now I am in exactly the right geographic place for me to be in. There are defines seasons here. I get to enjoy it all, spring flowers, hot lazy summer days, the changing colors of the leaves in fall, and the quiet of a snow covered yard in winter. It's also very helpful that it's a bit cheaper to have a horse in the Midwest than other places.

Motherhood was not my first choice in life. I did eventually hear the biological clock ticking and obviously I have a really great daughter, who sometimes reads a book upside down while sitting in a box. I recently read the follow up to Eat, Pray, Love: Committed. I like this book as well, though it is very different than the first. Recently I have not been as busy as I had hoped in my private practice. Also I have not been needed as much at my per diem job. This had begun to concern me. I have been professionally focused basically most of my life. Now what I have to focus on is my life, my loves...and this too is exactly where I'm supposed to be. And yes I'm soooo OK with this. In fact I am noticing my creative side is coming out again. I'm getting into glass fusing, back into cooking, and I'm thinking a book might be in order...Plus getting to wake up and have my daughter say I love you Mom, taking a nap in the afternoon and waking up to hear my daughter say I love you Mom...not a bad way to spend your day?!
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Overhaul sessions

2010-08-15T13:23:00.003-05:00

Rapid Resolution Therapy lends itself very well to "block sessions." Where in traditional counseling you meet with your therapist for an hour, say every week; with RRT you can easily do a "session" that is 2-6 hours long. Thus it is called a block session.
However, after my latest block session I think they need to be called overhaul sessions. A client I had worked with previously, recently had a minor trauma in her life that opened up an emotional wound. Since she was coming in from out of town we agreed to schedule on a day she had off and just keep going till I got it all cleared up for her. And I was successful. Now this session ended up being 4 hours long, in the end she asked for me to try to "push her buttons" and "trigger" her emotions- such as depression, anxiety, anger, and guilt. I tried. Seriously I tried really hard to get those triggers to be set off...Nothing!
I basically just worked through each "negative" emotion that came along. When that one was cleared up we moved to the next until I could no longer push her buttons so to speak. In short I overhauled her emotional traumas till there was nothing left. In the end she was sooo thankful and I was so excited that through Rapid Resolution Therapy I was able to make this possible for her.
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC