Questions at a cocktail party

Let me be the first to say I dislike that question: What do you do for a living? and yet I'm likely to be the first one to ask it. I dislike it and ask it for the same reason though. What we do says a lot about who we are. Seriously. I once heard/read that we all choose our career based on internal issues or needs. What we do does not define us, it's more like who we are defines what we will do for a living. (And again I think being a parent is a career and the most important career!) Yes I am admitting that being a counselor and life coach has something to do with my own internal stuff. I consider myself a kind, caring soul. I believe I can help others. I like teaching. I like being the one with knowledge. (Notice I say knowledge and not power-yep you will not see me running for President of the United States of America!) Having that knowledge gives me a role to play. Having a role to play helps me ease my social anxieties. See what I'm getting at about who we are defines what we do?
I also dislike that question because as soon as I answer it people respond, quickly to what I do. And I don't mean it's always in a good way. In fact being a licensed counselor can lead to many people becoming very paranoid and cautious around you for fear you're assessing their mental health and diagnosing them as crazy. When they hear I'm a life coach many times I hear they don't know what that is and what such a person does. When I then explain it they usually immediately want to know why someone would waste good money on such a thing. Yet they have a personal trainer who yells at them several times a week, and a business coach to tell them how to run their business better, and a spiritual guide to direct them to more enlightening situations...get my point. I like Tim Ferriss's answer to that question "I'm a drug dealer." People just shut up and leave you alone, I'm sure. Maybe I should try that one out more often! Tee hee! OK so I shall leave you alone with that rant for the week. Take it as food for thought the next time you go to a cocktail party, try not to ask that question and see if you can connect to others in different ways. Me? I'm a counselor and life coach, I like to get into people's heads...
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Another successful week

Of getting published. Why did I think getting my articles was going to be so time consuming, difficult, and nearly impossible? Oh, because I'm human and I talk myself out of things. So take some time, check out my articles: DivineCaroline & BloggersBase
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Ho hum

I know Wednesdays are usually quote days for me. To be honest I'm sick of quotes and I have a personal matter that's weighing heavily on my heart and mind right now. So being on my game isn't within me. I am working out, connecting with my friends, taking time for me, and my family to help ease the stress and get me through this junk that's coming up. I also failed at creating a little slide show of our recent trip to Heartland Lodge. I did find the website to the couple who are walking east from California to Jerusalem. As we deal with this personal stress we are also getting ready to go on a Disney Cruise, visit friends in Portalnd, I have a three day training in Chicago on hypnosis, and a blogger conference in Ashville, NC. So this summer is looking mighty busy for my family and I.
All that being said let's see if I can up load some pics into this blog here of mine...



This is just a view from the property as we were hiking



And the sunset during our sunset hay ride



And me and our trail guide on our trail ride. Yes in the saddle is the best place for me to get some therapy..

Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Thank you Universe

For the fact that I have had the option to spend time alone with my husband lately and for all the opportunities to write for other blogs, have articles accepted, and the fact that I have a new book swimming around in my head.
So what have I been doing in more detail?
Over 4th of July weekend we went to see relatives and had a wonderful date going to see a movie. And this past weekend we had an amazing chance to stay at Heartland Lodge. I'm hoping I can figure out how to create a little slide show for everyone and post that for Wednesday. So cross your fingers for me!
I just completed an article for another blog I have written for before and am eager to see how it does. I just looked up the last article to find it had SO many comments. I am always honored by comments and when there was a ton and all were positive and encouraging of my writing I'm still just in a tingle. Of course if your out there with a blog looking for a guest post let me know!
OK enough about me...
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

I got off my blogger butt

And I got published on Divine Caroline as well as Bloggersbase. My new goal plan is to take some time each Wednesday I'm at my counseling office and submit at least 2 articles. And when they are published I will let you know. Please stop by each and check them out!
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Quote for the week of 7/8/09

Flipped on the local radio station as I headed towards my counseling office to hear a few "quotes" I liked. I did not catch who said them or anything like that. If you know leave me a comment and I'll edit this post accordingly!
"Only you are responsible for your happiness." Well I know if you base your happiness upon others and expect them to make you happy your likely to be sad or mad more than happy. Just as if you try to set out to make everyone happy you will almost always be hurt and upset in the process and outcome. Take care of you first!
"What others opinions are of you is none of your business." Yep, so true. What people think or say about you has everything to do with them, their perception, their ideas of how the world should work, and their own issues. Move on and decide if your happy with the choices you have made. If so great. If not make amends and forgive yourself!
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

Blogging balance

That's what I'm working on is balance for the life of a blogger. I have some rules about my blogging, only 3-4 times a week, keep the bogs I read to a minimum, and my real life comes first. What I'm now trying to find is balance with my posts. I'm in this for my professional career but I don't want to be a pushy sales person either. I detest pushy sales people. I think that's why I'm struggling with marketing myself. I wish I had the budget to just hire someone I could trust to do all the marketing for me. I just don't have that budget, right now. I'm also trying to find the time, no I need to just create the time to post more articles. I've been a bad bad girl about that. I know I need to do this more than I am, shoot I j=haven't posted an article in months. My first problem with that is posting them in proper places that will be seen by my potential target market. And last I need to get off my shy tooshie and get out and meet people. That I'm starting to do by going to the Type A Mom Conference. So with that being said, my life is still a work of balance.
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC